Arguing is really a power struggle between two people who are forcefully wanting the other person to see things their way.
If you looked at it from my perspective all you would see is two people trying to meet critical needs in a low-level way.
Which helps them feel bad about themselves whilst they are feeling bad about their partner not seeing things their way.
So double trouble for each person.
To be clear if you are arguing you are likely to have no interest in the other person’s feelings at that point.
Most couples in the cold light of day could probably map out the path their conflict will take because most couples will have a pattern their conflict follows.
Bickering is usually seating in expectations not being met which can be followed by resentment.
But couples will discover the problem goes much deeper than unmet expectations.
The disconnect that drives the bickering and arguing will affect attraction and intimacy.
Attraction and intimacy is being affected by the lack of emotional connection.
The lack of emotional connection is being driven by the lack of emotional security.
The lack of emotional security is driven by two people not understanding how their emotional systems are different and why.
So I would stop the conflict and start the learning because conflict unchecked can lead people out of marriages that with a bit of help could easily reconnect.
Don’t forget the next stage couples go to after constant bickering and arguments is indifference and that’s when the one person has emotionally exited the marriage.
That’s when you have really lost control.