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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Built an empire and lost the family

I meet so many business men and women who are at the top of their game. They have built amazing companies yet they are all suffering with their marriages.

Each one of these business-savvy people ended up with a struggle because their understanding and skill in their business was not equalled by their understanding and skill (skills they didn’t know they needed) for building a successful marriage.

In many cases I see these individuals were using the skills they used to build their business empires as a foundation to build their marriage and were utterly confused when the outcome was less than successful.

I remember one CEO sat in front of me, he ran a blue-chip company everyone knows, he said: “I have many females that work for me and they all love me, why can’t I get the one at home to love me too?”

That sentence really showed that this clearly very intelligent man was totally unaware of the difference between a CEO and a husband and why would he?

Where in our educational system is anyone teaching us how to be married for life? 

It’s interesting that even the brightest minds are not seeing their reality.

They know they need education to become successful in business, but they don’t think they need the education to stay successfully married.

This distorted thinking provides proof that even the brightest minds don’t know what they don’t know. Plus why would they look for the answers to problems that for many don’t appear straight away, in some cases for years?

It’s only when their life is crumbling around them do they start their search for answers.

I speak to many confused and scared individuals shocked their relationship has hit the rocks and are unaware of what they can do about it.

It’s also interesting that when it comes down to it, the business and their money is far less important than their family they have unintentionally neglected for years.

The quality of our most intimate relationship is where our fulfilment and joy really sits. Many don’t discover this until it’s too late.

Imagine thinking that going to work and bringing home the money was the most important job only to discover it was actually the least important job and your partner has emotionally exited the relationship and you have no way to influence their decision.

Many people believe if they focus on their careers and bring home a good wage that is all that’s needed to do their bit.

I see so many people go into marital crisis at retirement or when the kids leave home or when a business has been sold.

What all these people discover is a profound lack of connection with their partner that they never noticed before.

A typical pattern I see is when one person looks after the children and the other works for a living. Both are busy with their individual purposes totally unaware the point of being together is being lost.

I asked one gentleman what was the purpose of his marriage and he said it was to bring up the kids, he couldn’t think of another purpose.

This is a worry because what happens when the kids leave home.

One businessman found himself in a 7-year legal battle.

He won the battle and wanted to celebrate with his wife. She was happy for him, but the time and energy (24/7 – 365) he put into winning his case left his relationship starved.

He never considered the cost of wining and even if it was important to her. 

Alone, disconnected and abandoned for 7 years led her to asked her husband for a divorce and now the legal win for him actually meant nothing.

Far too many people are totally disconnected from what’s important to their partner.

One very wealthy couple were totally disconnected she told him the money was really meaningless and he just wouldn’t believe her.

She was right, she had everything except an emotional connection that made sense to her so the relationship became pointless.

The balance of life is so important to get right.

Relationships for life are full of hidden complexities, that need to be understood and then simplified to make doing what’s right easy.

Many of you need to take action to undercover the truth and bring real understanding and new skills to your marriage.

I know many of my clients are time poor so we are looking for the fastest route to success that lasts.

You can do this together or on your own.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Chipo

Success Stories

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

“Lawyer saves relationship alone”!

July 27, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

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Recent Posts

  • When a marriage breaks down – What do I do?
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  • “We can’t find a way forward!”
  • Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
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Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on the Stephen Hedger Marriage Coach website/s are proof of our success, naturally, results may vary from person to person.

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