I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left.
As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say.
Before you get to her words, I want to set the context.
I’m not quoting her word for word here, but the gist was that if she had read this testimonial before she had worked with me she might be sceptical, but what she read had also happened to her.
Many people see my role as the coach who saves couples from divorce.
Most couples who do this work do indeed decide to say together, which is great.
My real mission is to help two people create a powerful connection with themselves so they can discover the impact of their new dynamic on their connection.
So the real mission is two happy people.
Some people are happier together because they bring out the best in each other, and some are happier apart because they are the wrong emotional fit.
In this ladies case, she came to me wanting to save her marriage.
What she started to see as we worked together was she could never be herself in her marriage.
To be clear she wasn’t aware of this problem.
She was unaware this was a source of years of emotional discomfort that had become normal life.
Essentially she just got on with it as most women do but she didn’t realise there were parts of herself she had to reject to stay in the marriage.
As we worked together she started to reclaim herself and she began to see that the relationship couldn’t work.
So she agreed to an amicable split.
Here is what she wanted to share with you.
“A few weeks ago, I felt something magical was happening, and I am not normally prone to these kinds of thoughts.
I even mentioned to a couple of friends …… something about sprinkles of fairy dust….. guardian angels……. not rowing upstream anymore!
We had approached Stephen for coaching 3 months ago as our marriage was in crisis and we immediately felt at ease speaking to him.
The weeks went by and it became obvious to me that I was looking ahead to a life of independence.
Strangely, I felt at ease.
I mentioned to a friend that I felt as if I was walking taller, that I had more confidence.
She replied that when I had stayed with her a few weeks earlier (she was totally unaware of our imminent separation) she had noticed a difference in me and she likened it to me being ‘like a phoenix rising out of the ashes‘.
I was quite taken aback.
The very next day there was a testimonial on Stephen’s blog by a woman who had received his counselling.
She had managed to work through her differences with her husband and, together, they were forging a renewed life ahead.
As a thank you, she had painted an eye-catching picture for Stephen – a phoenix rising out of the ashes.
This was yet another coincidence for me, underlining the fact that, although it didn’t work out for us in the same way,
I nevertheless felt empowered and confident that I was on the right track.
I take comfort in that and thank Stephen for his support and guidance and feel determined to be a good role model for both our adult daughters, who remain at the top of both our lists.”
This lady is now embracing and accepting all of who she is which will pave the way to more personal growth and creativity.
Living a life of joy is now possible for her as her inner confidence and peace grows.