Today's post is about helping you discover the basics of reconnection by shifting your approach to using alignment-based communication skills. This is
Before You Decide Whether to Save Your Marriage or Leave It, Read This
A guide for anyone whose marriage is under serious pressure. When a marriage reaches crisis point, the pressure to decide can feel
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Why does a woman that loves her husband have multiple affairs?
This gentleman had just found out his wife was guilty of another infidelity and was now at the end of the road. He had tried to forgive her before,
Loss of Love? How to Save Your Relationship
Today’s post explores practical advice—what to do and what not to do—when facing the loss of emotional connection in your relationship. If your
Passionless Marriage: “Sex life dying – want to know why?”
One of the most common issues couples face is the loss of passion. If you’re in a passionless marriage, I’m going to share the most common causes and
Coping with an Affair: How to Rebuild Trust and Save Your Marriage
If your marriage is in crisis due to an affair, coping with the emotional fallout can feel overwhelming. Learning the steps to rebuild trust while
“She wants to leave the marriage”
So many men come to me totally confused. His wife has communicated that she doesn't love him and wants out of the marriage, and this time, she means
“He wants to leave the marriage”
Your husband has told you he wants out, he's fallen out of love, he might have suggested a separation or maybe he has left and you want to win him
Too Many People Regret Divorcing Once the Dust has Settled
Very sad divorce regret story that changed her whole life and the life of her child who had no say in her mistake, she said to me “…but I’m confused,
10 Steps for Divorce Prevention
I have spent many many years working only with couples who are in crisis and on the edge of divorce. What I’ve learnt during this time is what
Is Divorce really the best solution?
Far too many couples are seeking divorce because they see it as a solution to an unhappy marriage. Divorce is a solution, but it isn't a solution
Women are struggling, but men don’t understand why – Mini Post
I have had hundreds of sessions where a lady in a session is sharing her upset and the man is totally confused as to why she would feel this
“Resentment Stacking”
When a persons’ marriage is NOT turning out to be the way they hoped, they are going to start stacking resentments towards their partner. This has the
Relationship triggers are killing couple’s connection!
Many couples find themselves in the same old behavioural patterns that end up frustrating both people. Life together will be teaching them they are
Helping men understand their wives
A significant problem that is presented to me over and over again is the very obvious disconnect between men and women and their interpretation of
A Marriage Dies From Thousands of Cuts
Marriages don’t die through one argument or one break of trust; they die through thousands of cuts that are left without repair, small disconnects
We Can’t Solve Anything Without Making It Worse
This is why so many couples stay stuck. They know something is wrong, but every attempt to fix it seems to trigger another argument, another
“I Had Never Felt So Right… And Then So Ashamed.”
In my early thirties (that's 30 years ago), I made a phone call I would think about for weeks afterwards. I rang a friend to tell him exactly how
How Can a Marriage Feel Secure and Still Feel Passionate?
For a marriage to last it needs three critical parts: 1. Emotional security, 2. Emotional connection and 3. Passion/intimacy. The challenge is
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When You No Longer Feel Like Yourself in Your Marriage
Some people care deeply about their marriage yet dread the moment their partner asks, “What’s wrong?” Not because they have nothing to say. They
Why I Created the 5Cs: The Hidden System Behind Marriage Crisis
Many couples still love each other, but the relationship they are living no longer resembles the relationship they intended to build. They care
Your Marriage May Not Need More Effort. It May Need a Different Kind.
Your efforts may be sincere, yet still leave you both feeling disconnected. The 5Cs offer a way to explore what your relationship may be
30 Behaviours That Can Create Emotional Disconnection in a Marriage
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