Some couples can find themselves in a confusing crisis because they have not experienced a specific problem. This is because they have lived in a
“What are you defending yourself for”?
Listening to so many couple's stories a person becoming defensive is a typical pattern I see every day. If someone is defending themselves then in
The Punishment Model
I know many people use a model of punishing their partner when they have done something they perceive to be wrong or upsetting. The problem with
“Never make this mistake”!
Never make the mistake of attaching your unhappiness to the wrong thing especially in a marriage. Look at what happens when a person is triggered
A thought for Sunday
A couple hits a crisis point and they realise they don't want the marriage to end so they start talking unaware of their next problem. Many people
Expectations kill relationships
To understand why expectations can kill relationships we are going to firstly look at the formula for being upset? A person becomes upset when the
“Wasting time”?
Many people waste their lives on what really doesn't matter and they find their truth when it's too late. It’s interesting the shift of
Can’t communicate? Find out why today…
Why do so many couples find it impossible to communicate, what is causing the problems that so many couples struggle with? Communication on the
How to take back control of yourself and your relationship
If you are a regular reader of this blog you will notice the many factors that can influence a person's feelings and behaviors. One factor I have
“Worst kind of marriage”!
The worst kind of marriages are the ones that practice the reverse of what it needs to survive. The traits of the worst marriages will kill the
Repatterning couples to succeed
Are you patterned for success or failure in your marriage? You know you are patterned for a successful marriage when you both can influence a
A thought for Sunday
It's been a tough 12 months and taking some time out to relax is healing for everyone. Cloe and I really enjoyed getting lost in the music and