A client comes for my help and is totally convinced the marriage is in a hopeless state.
Weeks later, they are both shocked at how quickly they have been able to turn it around with the right understanding and effort.
It was hard for them to believe the speed of their changes, but in certain cases change can happen quickly once the changes are embraced.
You see, couples can slip into horrible dynamics that don’t work at all and without knowing why as a result, they feel powerless.
That process creates fear.
In most cases, their disconnect isn’t about them being the wrong fit; it’s because they are both disconnected from how to understand and influence each other positively.
This is a worrying and hopeless position to be in and can lead the couple to make things worse.
What’s interesting is their disconnect was simply a sign some changes needed to happen.
In so many cases, the moment both people understand what they are dealing with, it’s not so worrying, and secondly, that then brings them the confidence to step up, with an energy that protects their connection and each other.
This protective energy paves the way for couples to reconnect to themselves and each other, which frees attraction to come back.
This is why I hear the message. I feel a sexual desire for my partner again.
Many have not felt that genuine feeling of attraction for years and were worried it was dead.
I have seen couples that have been sexually and emotionally disconnected for ten years, and they have reconnected on both counts.
You see, people set up dynamics that kill their sexual energy.
They kill their attraction, and they kill their connection.
With simple yet powerful shifts, many couples could transform their connection in a matter of weeks but the one that make it are the ones that follow very specific instructions.
What stops so many couples from taking the first step is a lack of courage.