What do you do when your marriage has been disconnected over 20 years, when you have tried many kinds of help without success. Do you give up or search for a new approach?
What were the problem(s) that made you seek Stephens help?
My husband and I will have been married for 40 years next year. How we have survived to this point I will never know ! We started having problems after about 15 years of relatively happy marriage – and we’ve been stuck in a destructive cycle of misunderstanding and poor communication since. I would try to explain how his behaviour would make me feel, he would not listen, become defensive, and we would then both descend into ignoring each other. Bad patches could last weeks – even months. I became more and more emotional. He became cold.
We tried counselling – several times, but nothing helped. Or maybe it did a little in that we stayed together. But our problems were never resolved.
In desperation I used to read anything possible and then I found Stephen Hedgers posts and found this was saying everything I wanted to hear.
What results did you get from the coaching program?
It took a few sessions – I was very emotional at first. At the start we wanted to tell Stephen about specific arguments – to get him to say who was right or wrong. But this isn’t what Stephen is about. He’s not there to try to referee – he’s there to change thinking patterns. To get you to see the problems in a different way. And then to change your behaviour patterns and improve your communication. We quickly started to see an improvement in the way we were together – not always getting it right, but not descending into the destructive pattern of before. And hopefully now, we never will.
What exactly did you like most about Marriage Breakthrough Program?
Stephen has a lovely calm kind manner. Not critical. Not taking sides. Just explaining. And what he was telling us just made sense. And then armed with a different way of thinking, we quickly enjoyed the results of better communication.
But the best thing of all was the fact that Stephen was able to explain to my husband about how to deal with me. How to understand me. Up until then, it was as if we were speaking different languages.
Why would you recommend this Coaching Program to another Couples/Individuals who might be on the fence?
We’ve tried other counselling. Nothing got to the heart of the issue – which once explained by Stephen, is actually very simple and straightforward. It seems amazing how easy it is to get it so wrong. But yet so many couples do.
I would certainly recommend Stephen to anyone – it’s a shame it can’t be taught to everyone.
Do you have any other benefits you want to mention about Stephen Hedger and Marriage Breakthrough Program, or anything else you want to add?
With four married children, I’ve been able to offer help and advise to them when faced with issues in their relationships.
What surprised you the most about the Coaching Program?
I was incredibly surprised at how much my husband enjoyed his sessions with Stephen. He’d been very reticent about more counselling but he found it enlightening. It was as if he finally could begin to understand me. There were some things id been trying to tell my husband but he just couldn’t hear it from me. But when Stephen explained it, it all made sense to him. I am so grateful.
What is life like now that you’ve been through the Coaching Program?
Life is happy and calm. Still with the normal ups and downs but we have a different understanding of each other. No longer thinking the worst of each other, we seem to want to resolve the issues with love and kindness. Curiosity replacing defensiveness.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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