Yesterday I set the scene that couples are not naturally designed to understand how to solve their marital problems. Today I want to expand a
“Not equipped for the job”
I meet some of the loveliest people in the most horrible situations. These people are smart, bright, creative people with a good heart at their core,
The Joyless
It’s true that many people become addicted to their unhappiness or lack of joy. They are addicted to meeting their needs through a search for what is
Reinvestment Strategy – Repatterning Couples For Success
I work with some of the toughest cases of marital crisis globally. These are the cases most people have almost given up on - even the professional
“I always want it my way”!
The way couples are trying to get their needs met is killing their connection and making it unlikely their partner will ever want to meet their
“Trying to fix a marriage”?
So you want to fix your marriage or a least discover what is possible. So is the correct process to work out how we got here and what went
Changing needs are crippling marriages
What do you do when a relationship has felt happy for years and then suddenly a negative change for no reason starts to take hold. What do you do
“Fight the problem NOT each other”!
As each person presents their truth what is easy to see is when each person tells me their version of events the problem they face is true to
“Age doesn’t grow wisdom”!
Age doesn’t grow a tree of wisdom if destructive thinking is the seed they keep planting. I had a couple in their late 50's come to me because they
“You are not broken”!
Most people that attend my sessions are in varying degrees of emotional stress, some are worried they are broken or there is something wrong with
“Who has POWER over you”?
I remember my first ever meeting with a life coach, he asked me a question "who had my power"? It was a great question that over the years has
What does it really mean?
It's natural for a person to look for meaning in life events, but the desire for meaning can create catastrophic misunderstandings. How does a