So imagine the situation where a person feels they need to leave their marriage because it hasn’t made them happy.
Fair enough, you only get one life, and not all people are suited to be together for life.
But before the unhappy people leave their marriages, there is a question.
The marriage that has helped them become unhappy they helped to create that marriage.
So how do you know the problems you are experiencing are not of your own making?
I see many people who have helped to turn their partner into energies they, in the end, don’t like.
For example, the woman who was so controlling she turned her husband into her servant and then complained he was weak.
So if anyone has been the part creator of their marriage, it’s important they also look at what they have done to influence their disconnect.
You see, it’s very easy to blame others, it’s much harder to look at ourselves and see where we might be challenged.
I remember one gentleman who was convinced his wife was the problem, he embarked on an affair, and it felt amazing.
There was the proof, the problems were his wife, not him, he was able to be fun, passionate, loving.
A few months into the affair, he noticed a shift in this woman, and he recognised the behaviours.
She was starting to behave the same as his wife had been for years.
You see this man was unaware of the impact he was having on these women.
He was a driving force for their negativity, their fear, their constant worry, looking for what was wrong.
Seeing this very clearly, he admitted he was part of the problem, and this observation put him on track to save his marriage.
You see, so many people are unaware they are part of the problem.
In many cases, the marriage isn’t the problem at all.
The couple simply don’t know how to get the best from it or each other.
So the fastest way to change a marriage is to change yourself.
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