I remember my first ever meeting with a life coach, he asked me a question "who had my power"? It was a great question that over the years has
What does it really mean?
It's natural for a person to look for meaning in life events, but the desire for meaning can create catastrophic misunderstandings. How does a
Negative Pattern Switching
The art of Negative Pattern Switching is a key skill to learn especially if you are in a relationship. One of the energies that has a profound
“These Women are fed-up”!
I speak to so many women who admit they like to be in control but they are also fed-up they are in control. I know that may look like a
How you are must never be dictated by how someone else is.
I see so many people who are profoundly affected by how others behave around them. When other people are dictating how you experience yourself this
A thought for Sunday
For those wanting a happy life, there is one critical thing, they must fix. When I was first presented with the concept that a map of London isn't
23 Ways a tortured life is created
Many people self-sabotage themselves by living a life of emotional self-inflicted torture, happiness and joy are so fleeting because their thinking
If The Love Dies is it the end?
Many people see love dying as the end of their relationship, but what if it's not really dead. I have met many couples who have fallen out of love,
“Crisis out of the blue”!
Some couples can find themselves in a confusing crisis because they have not experienced a specific problem. This is because they have lived in a
“What are you defending yourself for”?
Listening to so many couple's stories a person becoming defensive is a typical pattern I see every day. If someone is defending themselves then in
The Punishment Model
I know many people use a model of punishing their partner when they have done something they perceive to be wrong or upsetting. The problem with
“Never make this mistake”!
Never make the mistake of attaching your unhappiness to the wrong thing especially in a marriage. Look at what happens when a person is triggered