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Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“If you change yourself, you can change your life…”

This is probably one of the best pieces of advice I was ever given and massively affected my life direction and my own marriage.

After all, it’s so much easier to change what you can control rather than try to change either what you can’t control, or try to change others that have no interest in changing.

I was also told that life is a series of lessons and if you learn what it’s teaching you can never fail, you’ll only learn and grow.

These two shifts of thought have the ability to help each person create a life that is the right one for you by putting you in the driving seat.

Using this advice is really useful for intimate relationships as I also discovered.

If you are reading this blog you’ll probably have a relationship problem of some kind.

It can help rebuild a damaged connection or it can help a person discover if the relationship they are in is right or wrong for them.

You can ask your partner to change and some may change for a while to pacify the situation, but if the change is not their idea or understood properly, they are not likely to maintain the change.

So the question isn’t can my partner change, the question is can I change myself to the point I can effectively influence my partner to want to be better for themselves and the relationship.

You see many people know how to trigger their partner to feel bad, the real skill is in the ability to trigger them to experience the emotions they want and attach those good feelings to you.

You see the the real skill of relationships is in our own ability to help our partner to feel so good about themselves they will naturally want to do anything for us.

The change in them then becomes their decision and one they are invested in.

You see love isn’t something you can demand or control, love is something someone gives for free, but it comes from a happy healthy heart.

If love has conditions attached then it isn’t love at all it’s a trade.

Healing someone heart after years of upset is a trust-building process and totally possible for those wanting to learn.

The key is for a relationship to change only one person has to make the change that puts us back in control.

One woman was itching to speak with me because she had spent 5 years trying to change her husband and within 4 weeks of me and him working together she started to see a very different man appear.

She experienced more connection, more care, more understanding she was feeling alignment and it was new.

She wanted to know how this had happened, she was baffled she had tried everything and had written the relationship off and was considering divorce.

IMPORTANT: He didn’t try to change her he wanted to become a more effective husband as he saw he was going to lose her.

By becoming a more effective husband she also started to naturally change too because she felt safe to become herself with him again.

In many cases changing just one person is all that’s needed.

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November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

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March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

“His emotions were sabotaging what he really wanted…”

November 3, 2019 By Stephen Hedger

What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

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