Many people waste their lives on what really doesn’t matter and they find their truth when it’s too late.
It’s interesting the shift of perspective as I work with different age groups about how they see life.
Someone in their 60s can start to become focused on their own mortality.
Where as someone in their 30s thinking about their mortality could be the furthest thing from their mind.
I remember talking to a person in their mid-70s and their perspective is that life is so short it flew by.
Inside they still felt young, but their mirror told them a different story, where did the time go?
My point here is the people who act as if they are immortal are the ones who will waste their time on what really doesn’t matter.
They won’t act as if each day is precious, they will waste it because they believe there will always be another day.
The people who know there is an end for them will see each day as valuable and so won’t waste their days.
- They don’t have time for fighting.
- They don’t have time for stress.
- They don’t have time for blame and judgment.
They are focused on seeing what they can do, experience, and achieve in the short time we all have left.
You see if you knew today was your last day what emotions would you choose to experience?
On that day all the usual things couples fight about wouldn’t matter at all.
People would feel free to focus on what they always wanted.
Feelings like love, peace and belonging.
So why wait for the last day to be free to embrace what is most important?
The wisdom of experience
I remember one client telling me a story about a conversation he was having with his elderly father.
He was talking to his father about his own wife being upset and angry at him.
He was furious at her and wanted his fathers to hear his upset.
The wise father said “your anger at her will bring you nothing, but more upset”.
“All she probably needs is reassurance you care and that she is loved”.
His elderly father was in the perspective of valuing time and becoming what is most important today.
He knows his son’s anger at her would only result in many wasted days of upset and why waste such precious time you’ll never get back?
Who cares who is right and who is wrong isn’t love what you both really want?
So why don’t you prioritise what you really want and don’t waste another moment on things that in the end really don’t matter?