Today’s post might not relate to everyone, but it might be worth a quick look as this might be happening to you.
So everyone growing up on some level has experienced challenging times on some level.
Some have been abused some have had to cope with emotional problems such as loss, abandonment, shame to name few.
What many people do without knowing is they can use their marriage as a vehicle to heal those past childhood problems.
For example: A woman may have had a disconnected relationship with her father and is trying to heal that past wound using her husband as her support mechanism.
This type of pattern will create unnecessary stress on their relationship as her partner now becomes the vehicle to heal past upsets and wrongs he had nothing to do with.
Partners on the receiving end of this generally don’t respond well to upset that comes out of nowhere, being made responsible or paying the price for other persons actions.
A partners job is to care when there is upset, but not become the full time emotional carer due to past problems.
People that are patterned to use their relationships this way need to be redirected to healthier patterns.
They will need to free their partner from the responsibility of past wrongs created by others.
They will need to embrace a more empowering focus that will enable a less needy energy.
Healthy couples don’t live in the past.
Healthy couples enjoy today whilst being excited to embrace the future they have designed together.
Remember this process isn’t about trusting your partner.
It’s about both people trusting themselves to trust their partner and embracing the empowered versions of themselves.
Remember a person’s job in a marriage is to add value to their connection, not keep dragging their partner down with past emotional problems, not of their doing.
