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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“It’s impossible without this”!

I work with some of the brightest minds worldwide, yet this skill is not front of mind or understood and so their marriages begin to suffer and they don’t know why.

What’s interesting is this skill is not required at the start of a couples life together.

BUT it becomes increasingly more critical as the years progress which is why couples can start to struggle.

The skill that makes a relationship so impossible to be in is a lack of understanding of how your partner experiences their emotional world.

What do they need to experience that brings out the best in them and helps them keep their attraction for you alive?

This is so important to know because you cannot positively influence someone if you don’t understand their emotional world and how it works.

The cost of not understanding this critical influencing information is couples end up triggering each other negatively.

Some people can keep creating negative triggers in their partner without meaning to due to this lack of understanding.

In addition, this practice starts a process of emotional destruction as the person can feel misunderstood, uncared for and alone.

Not connecting to a partners’ emotional world affects trust, which is foundational for their ability to grow their connection.

So what emotions is your partner trying to get to any why?

In every situation, that answer can change, and to answer it, you cannot use your own thinking and needs because you are very different to your partner.

There is no question that without understanding this part of relationship-building, it is a challenge.

This is why people have an affair because this understanding is not needed at the start, so the initial connection is easy.

But when an affair becomes a real relationship this knowledge will be needed! 

In reality relationships should be easy to be in.

The key to making that happen is that the couple must understand what they must do to make that happen.

One sixty-year-old lady, I worked with went through 3 divorces only to discover she was a significant contributor to the problems that lead her to divorce each one.

She didn’t have this knowledge and blamed them all. 

There was so much she could have done to help, but instead, without knowing, she set them all up to fail.

That’s a hard message to hear.

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

His marriage was over!

June 5, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

This man was in the depths of sadness, his marriage was over, but he didn’t want it to be. They had seen numerous counsellors who had all concluded the marriage was indeed over. He had lost all feelings for his wife. Due to being so stuck for so long, he had started an affair. But […]

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

“Lawyer saves relationship alone”!

July 27, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

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