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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“I’ve lost feelings for my partner!”

So here is an interesting dilemma for this person they might not have considered. There is no question that this feeling is true for that person so when they say this they are being honest.

I have a question because this sentence “I’ve lost feeling for my partner” can lead a person to a life-changing decision.

So what is it that creates a feeling? Not just this feeling, but any feeling?

You see if the next part of my life is hanging in the balance and it’s based on a feeling, wouldn’t it be a good idea to understand how a feeling is created?

As each person is responsible for creating their own feelings so the better question is “what did I have to do to me for me to lose those feelings for my partner?”

And is the loss of feelings permanent?

To the person there is no doubt it will feel permanent, but it’s highly likely they won’t know how it was created in the first place so anyone in this place would feel lost or hopeless and give up.

Imagine running your whole life based on your feelings with no idea how those feelings happen or are created.

This question is relevant to every person I meet because no one seems to know the answer yet they seem to blindly trust the feelings they have.

Many will admit they don’t know how it happened. Many naturally blame their outside world, but with every event, there are a 1000 ways to experience it, but people tend to run their learnt patterns and call that the truth.

The moment we understand how are feelings are created and what feelings will consistently lead a person to their own inner peace and joy that’s the moment we take back control.

Then that person can start a new happier way of living.

They can step off the rollercoaster of buying whatever the brain says and redirect their thinking so they design their life so it leads them to empowerment and freedom.

People who believe their partner is to blame for how they feel will not be aware of the self-inflicted emotional prison that limits their ability to respond in a way that frees them.

The mission is to live a life that means you can be all of who you are, you must feel free.

Many don’t know how to create that freedom because they don’t know the feelings to choose and that it’s even possible so they live reactive lives where they are constantly powerless.

This is why they get depressed, they feel stuck and get angry, frustrated or sad these are all just emotions searching for better ways to meet their needs and none of it works.

So life becomes unwinnable and they feel hopeless so turn to easy ways to escape the pain.

One gentleman was horrified at the idea he was doing his depression to himself until he discovered he had become depressed as a low-level way to get love from his wife.

The higher purpose was he wanted love so he had to learn how to create that so his wife would feel it too.

I have seen people trying to talk themselves out of perfectly good relationships as a way to feel safe.

Feelings are powerful so it’s best to be the driver not the passenger because you may not like where they take you.

This individual work is critical for the first stage of helping someone become a more effective relationship partner, it’s why so many attend alone to fix their marriage problems.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

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“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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