Unless she can connect to herself when she is with him she will never be able to connect to him in a way that keeps the attraction energy alive within her.
This is the gold most men are missing in long-term relationships.
You see she has to love how she feels about herself when she is with him, specifically she has to connect to the part of her that will allow her to see him as attractive.
It happened when they first met but neither person was aware of how.
If she lives in the wrong emotional energy she can struggle and the desire for intimacy can fade.
Some women can keep the sexual intimacy alive to protect the marriage, but not feel emotionally connected so the quality of their intimacy is affected as she is simply doing a job rather than enjoying their love.
Women that are dating are giving us clues about this critical connection need because they want a man that can make them laugh.
Laughing is one of many ways she authentically connects to herself, this is what she needs to feel attraction.
This need to connect to herself when she is with him is a lifelong need and happens on many levels.
So as a man, you can win her and think you have her so the job is done, when in reality the job has just started.
You see how she experiences the world is 100% based on connection to everything.
The most fundamental pain I keep seeing in women is they cannot connect to themselves when she is with him.
Women who worry about their lack of connection to themselves can show him through their upset, and rages, some repeating the same thing over and over.
This is her way of protecting the marriage she is trying to wake him up to help her.
In the end, many women have to disconnect from themselves to feel safe in the marriage and that in the end can be painful enough for her to want to leave him.
Husbands are blind to this problem and women are not aware enough to help him understand it.
All she knows is how she feels and so she simply reacts to it.
So when a husband asks her to help him fix her problems with him, she doesn’t help him because she doesn’t know how.
Some women may say “If you loved me you would know” which is code for, I don’t know.
So if you are a man wanting to help your wife reinvest in the marriage this will be a critical skill to learn whilst the window of opportunity is open, please note it does close.
When she fully closes down the job will become much harder and far more complex.
Not being afraid to leave him is her first step towards disconnecting.
He must not ignore her, think she will get over it, or leave her to sort herself out because this makes him emotionally pointless to her.
The most painful place for her to be is alone in her marriage.
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