• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

New Clients Call London UK +44 (0)845 519 4808

Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

  • Home
  • Marriage Breakthrough Program
    • Couples Coaching
    • Individual Coaching
  • About
  • FAQs
  • Success Stories
  • Appointments
  • Blog

We are never on the same page?

When couples fall in love there comes a point of shock when they realise how differently their partner thinks about critical elements of their life together.

In many cases, these shocks happen as they go and after they are both fully invested. The couple will notice as their life together unfolds it will release the next shock of newly discovered misalignment.

Many people fall into the trap of thinking that falling in love is instantly going to align their thinking.

Does being in love instantly mean we agree without a discussion about how kids are brought up?

Will we instantly agree on how the money is managed and who does what in the home, what about the direction our lives should take?

Many couples are finding themselves in conflict and not on the same page with the day-to-day transaction stuff.

The biggest challenge

The biggest challenge is when couples are not on the same page with the emotional connection and emotional security.

When one or both people are naturally expecting from their partner the model of what equals to them a loving partner and they don’t get it, it can cause real problems.

Look at sexual connection, for many women (and some men) this becomes a real struggle when the relationship doesn’t also practice a consistent emotional connection.

Unless they get on the same page, sexual misalignment can cause stress and resentment and now the cycle of ‘lack’ will become self-fulfilling.

Successful relationships are rooted in alignment as this is the easiest way to grow a successful connection and keep all the fun stuff alive.

The challenge is men and women are not designed to think the same way about life and especially relationships.

We are designed totally differently and the assumption we should think the same is causing a lot of unnecessary stress.

It’s not always just about the differences between masculine and feminine, it’s also about understanding that each person on the planet is unique, they are an individual and as such will have different beliefs, needs, values that drive them.

Just because they are different it doesn’t make them wrong.

These differences need to be understood and respected because the best way to kill the spirit of a person is to kill who they are by trying to change them.

Far too many people think their partners’ thinking is wrong and they would be better off thinking the same as they do.

So be on the same page with your differences and learn to love those too.

The challenge is far too many couples really don’t know how to get on the same page because they only have access to their own thinking and this simply not enough when a connection with another human(who is different) is needed.

This is when help is required…

Category iconMarriage Coaching

"Marriage in Crisis? Application to work with Stephen Hedger"

Your First Step Starts Now

Recent Posts

  • “It’s like watching two kids squabbling”
  • A thought for Sunday
  • An Intimacy Conundrum
  • The cost of NOT hearing a cry for help
  • Triggered?

Over 850 Relationship Articles

 

Primary Sidebar

Do You Want
To Save Your Marriage?

Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

Learn more

About Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

Stephen runs his meetings from his office in Harley Street London and supports his global clients over Zoom.

Learn more

A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
Many thanks
Olivia

Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

Kind regards

Chipo

Success Stories

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

Please Save Our Marriage! – Testimonial

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

“His emotions were sabotaging what he really wanted…”

November 3, 2019 By Stephen Hedger

What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

Do you want
To Save your Marriage?

Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

Learn more

 

“Free Marriage in Crisis 8 Page Guide”:

Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for saving marriages from divorce through his tailored Marriage Breakthrough Program.


Stephen says when you are in marital crisis it's important to know what to do to make sure your next steps don't make the situation even worse. This short guide written by Stephen is designed to help you take a step back and consider next steps intelligently.

 

Click to Download FREE

Footer

Sessions currently held over Zoom

If you are interested
In Stephens help

Please call us on

+44 (0)845 519 4808


Stephen Hedger offers married couples in crisis across the globe a comprehensive strategic roadmap to overcome their marriage problems. Today Stephen works with Celebrities, CEO’s, Lawyers, Bankers, Royalty, Judges, and business owners helping them transform their family and personal relationships with massive breakthroughs, seemingly against all odds.

  • Cloe Hedger (Stephen’s wife)
  • Marriage Breakthrough Program
  • Individual Coaching
  • About
  • Success Stories
  • Articles
  • FAQs
  • Mission: Vision: Values:

Recent Posts

  • “It’s like watching two kids squabbling”
  • A thought for Sunday
  • An Intimacy Conundrum
  • The cost of NOT hearing a cry for help
  • Triggered?

*Disclaimer:
Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on the Stephen Hedger Marriage Coach website/s are proof of our success, naturally, results may vary from person to person.

Terms & Privacy Policy      Copyright © 2021 StephenHedger.com. All rights reserved. Return to top

We use cookies to ensure that we give you the best experience on our website. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with it.Ok