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Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Why don’t business people see this..?

My marriage in crisis service naturally attracts a lot of successful high-powered business people.

Here is an observation I find interesting that so many business people also point out to me as they go through my program.

They say shaking their heads “I know this, I practice these philosophies in my company why have I not been applying this thinking to my marriage”?

All the skills those people have used to become successful in their business they seem to have forgotten in their married life.

Let’s look at a few.

Every business person knows that they must understand the needs of their customer to attract the customer and keep the customer engaged to come back for more.

In fact, these business people can put a huge amount of money into market research learning the perspectives and drivers of their customers.

These people are driven by the concept of “contribution” they know they have to provide massive value to many.

They want to understand what motivates them to take action?

They want to know what is their customer is interested in?

How the customer feels when they buy the product, what emotions are present and why?

They are trying to put themselves in their customer’s shoes to understand their interests and motivations?

No business person is thinking the way they think is how their customer should think.

No business person thinks when the customer thinks differently then the customer is wrong.

That concept in business is irrational.

They know the more they understand and accept and show care to their customer the greater the chance they will motivate them to buy and this creates more profit.

If you think about it isn’t this some of what it takes to make a great marriage?

Isn’t it important to assume you don’t understand the needs and motivations and drivers of your partner and make it an important mission to discover what they are?

Isn’t it important to be able to put yourself in your partners’ shoes and understand their emotional experiences so you can support them and positively influence them?

You see with a relationship being far more important to most people than anything, why are more business people who know this not seeing this critical thinking is missing from their approach to their own relationship.

Much of the problem comes from…

  1. Not knowing where to go to understand this critical information about their partners thinking.
  2. Expectations for their partner to be and act a certain way and when they don’t resentments stack.

Interestingly they don’t set any expectations for their customers. Plus they are not resentful when the customer doesn’t buy.

If their customer doesn’t buy from them who are they upset with?

The customer for not buying from them, or their product or marketing for not being of enough value.

Adding value to your customer in the way they need and they will come back for more, an intimate partner is the same.

Business people know how it works, but they change the rules for success at home.

The rules they use at home they would never adopt with their customers.

When one partner consistently adds care and value to their partner in the way they need it, natural reciprocity is likely to take place.

This is the energy that every couple must be focused on creating.

If you don’t know how then this is where your market research starts.

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Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

Please Save Our Marriage! – Testimonial

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

“His emotions were sabotaging what he really wanted…”

November 3, 2019 By Stephen Hedger

What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

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  • She nearly divorced him for the wrong reason
  • All Roads Lead to Rome – “It’s Always About Me”!

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