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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“Why Suffer”?

Why do couples suffer in their marriage?

  • Are they the wrong fit?
  • Have they naturally grown apart?
  • Do they have a problem they can’t get over?
  • Do they just misunderstand each other?

What is the real root cause of their suffering?

When helping couples, I believe it’s essential to help them connect to their truth, whatever that is.

Remember, relationships are supposed to help people have a happier life experience.

So to get to that truth, a person’s thinking does need to be understood and challenged.

This is important because too many people are the creators of their own destructive thinking as they incorrectly translate their partners’ words and actions.

This destructive thinking process is a real challenge for that person because it creates a true memory.

Those events they experienced were indeed unpleasant.

People rely on what they experience as their truth, and they can use that memory to predict what the future will hold.

This is the process many people use when considering leaving their marriage their future happiness disappears from sight.

The problem the person doesn’t see is this, what if their translation of these unpleasant events is actually wrong?

I speak to so many people who are 100% convinced their version of events is the truth.

I see their experience as their perception, so there are many possible meanings, not just the one they have chosen to believe.

I have seen people who had spent years incorrectly translating their partner, which brought them to the point of wanting to leave them.

For those people, they avoided a life disaster.

My clients are smart people who will agree you cannot rely on bad data, especially when that bad data will form the basis of the rest of a person’s life.

So the question that must be answered is, what is really broken?

Has the marriage really broken down to the point there is nowhere to go?

Or

Is our lack of understanding of how to correctly translate each other the real problem?

Many people leave their marriage only to discover similar problems in new relationships.

These people may go through a few relationships before realising that their lack of knowledge is their real problem.

One 60-year-old lady had three failed marriages only to discover she translated each one the same incorrect way.

Like anything, when you know how to build a successful connection, it’s easy.

The mistake is thinking we are all born knowing how to achieve this.

Many have this problem: they think keeping a connection alive is simple, and if it becomes difficult or complicated, then clearly, we are incompatible.

Keeping a marriage alive is simple once you know how BUT…

The challenge is becoming aware of what you don’t know you need to know.

For example: How will a couple keep their passion for each other alive if the need for connection is likely to erode that passion over time?

With relationships, it’s always the hidden stuff that causes the most significant problems.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
Many thanks
Olivia

Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

Kind regards

Chipo

Success Stories

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

“I was in tears…” 

October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

“Lawyer saves relationship alone”!

July 27, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

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Recent Posts

  • Marriage is a dance – A dance most couples kill
  • “We can’t find a way forward!”
  • Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
  • Anyone that marries will have trouble!
  • “Identity Secrets”- Mini Post

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Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on the Stephen Hedger Marriage Coach website/s are proof of our success, naturally, results may vary from person to person.

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