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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Relationship boredom?

Once the excitement of the first throws of love and passion goes away and you’ve got married bought the house and you’ve had the kids what now?

How is the couple going to keep the passion, excitement, the fun, the adventure and humour alive?

You see boredom can start us on a journey of thinking something is wrong and as we search for what’s wrong we can find a lot of things wrong and now the worry seed is sown.

When I meet with couples who are struggling one of the common challenges is the relationship that was once exciting and a primary focus is now something that is just there and is taken for granted.

This results in their real needs being met outside of the marriage with friends, with work with parents, kids, hobbies etc.

As our needs are being met outside of the relationship it is being starved of what it needs to survive. Just like a business and the children, relationships must grow and develop to stay alive.

What these couples have not done is understand the fundamental reason they are together and what that journey together will look like.

When the relationship isn’t fed what it needs to survive it can start to die and in many cases, the start of this process is ignored – until it’s crisis time and one person has had enough, or started an affair, or turned to another coping strategy.

It’s like the couple, in the beginning, is excited and agree to go on an amazing voyage through life together, they get on the ship and then they sit in the harbour for years wondering why they are bored wondering why they are still together.

The couples who say the kids are their reason for being together are vulnerable because I see a large number of couples where the kids are leaving home and the couples are instantly entering a crisis.

The couples who don’t plan their relationship don’t usually end up where they want because either life or others have their own agenda.

Someone else’s design for your future is never going to be as good as your own design, so it’s important to take charge.

When couples visit me and have learnt how to reconnect out their crisis they are then supported to build a reason for being together as it’s part of what makes their relationship unique and special.

Relationships must grow and the couple must grow together as they head towards the future that excites them both.

This is part of what’s needed to make your marriage bulletproof.

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Hi, I'm Stephen Hedger. I'm determined to help couples discover what their marriage is capable of with the right information. My only question is, will it be yours?

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About Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

Stephen runs his meetings from his office in Harley Street London and supports his global clients over Zoom.

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Olivia

Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Chipo

Success Stories

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

Please Save Our Marriage! – Testimonial

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

“His emotions were sabotaging what he really wanted…”

November 3, 2019 By Stephen Hedger

What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

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Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for saving marriages from divorce through his tailored Marriage Breakthrough Program.


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Recent Posts

  • “It’s like watching two kids squabbling”
  • A thought for Sunday
  • An Intimacy Conundrum
  • The cost of NOT hearing a cry for help
  • Triggered?

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