Would you like to know who is attracted to you as you go about your daily life? I’m now going to share some body language tips to look out for that will reveal the thoughts in the minds of those around you.
Sometimes it’s very difficult to know if someone is attracted to you or not. If you’re dating then understanding this would be a great asset. If you are in a relationship it’s good to know the reaction you are having on others so you can act appropriately, and avoid difficult situations.
I’m going to cover this topic over the next few days because there is a lot to cover, so lets start with the messages we can read from people’s eye patterns.
Eye patterns that equal potential attraction
These eye patterns are not conscious and so the person is unaware of what they are doing. Their eyes are purely reflecting the feelings they are having in response to you.
In a platonic relationship or a business relationship their eye pattern will be to scan your face in a triangular fashion that goes from one eye to another to the nose and back to the eyes. This will indicate a non-sexual conversation.
They will randomly repeat this pattern through the conversation with you.
As soon as their attention goes past the nose and to the lips and back to the eyes then you have a potential attraction going on, remember they will be unaware of what they are doing.
If the eye pattern goes from eye-to-eye and lower than lips, then it very clear that an attraction is likely. At this point men and women will go from being unaware of what they are doing to suddenly being very aware as their feelings become intense.
Attraction confirmation is when the glances become more sexual, the lips are the start so watch what happens next.
A man maybe suddenly be shocked to find he is looking at a woman’s breasts. Or a woman may suddenly be horrified that she is looking at a mans crotch.
You may now start to become aware of what people are doing, but don’t worry this is all very normal and harmless and remember 9 times out of 10 their behaviours are reflex, so take it as a compliment as the nature in them is attracted to the nature and beauty in you.
So have fun looking into the minds of others and tomorrow we will look at what else the eyes do when some one is really attracted to you.
We will also build a picture of many patterns this week from arms, to hands, to feet, to how we stand and what it all means.
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