If you want him to want you back, then you have to understand why you’re not together today. What is it that helped him feel that you were not right for each other?
The number one reason is going to be that he didn’t feel good about himself when he was with you.
The question is why did he leave you?
Most men leave relationships because they don’t feel they can be successful with their partners in the way they want.
The more proof a man has that he can’t be himself combined with feeling he can’t please her, or he isn’t enough for her the more likely he is to want leave.
- If he feels she is negative all the time
- If he feels she nags or complains constantly
- If he feels she is more of a man than he is
- If she never smiles when she is with him
- If she blocks sex
- If she is verbally aggressive when she’s upset
- If she lights up with friends and family yet is miserable with him
- He doesn’t feel free
- He doesn’t feel respected
- He doesn’t feel loved
- He doesn’t feel enough for her
If he experiences any of these things he will feel bad about himself. He will feel she is impossible to please his desire to leave the relationship will be increased.
The proof will be in his desire historically to spend more and more time in other areas of his life and less time with you.
Unless he’s had relationship education he won’t understand these behaviors in you he will assume you don’t love him and so he will go.
Now you have some idea of what will make him run, so….
How do you make him want you back?
The answer is simple if he hasn’t moved on and inside he still loves you, if you help him to feel successful with you he will feel good about himself again.
Your smile is a wonderful start. When a woman smiles at a man it’s like gold to him. It’s a key indicator you are happy with him because you are doing it whilst looking at him, he will see he is the trigger for your smile.
- He has to know what it is about him that helps you to feel like you’re a girl.
- He has to know that you love his ability to make things right.
- He has to know that you behaved that way because you were just scared.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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