Knowing how to repair a relationship when it goes wrong is critical for any couples survival and is the responsibility of both people in the relationship. To do this you have to understand your partner, how they think, how they translate information and what’s important to them.
This lady needed all this information and more to be able to get through to her partner. She needed to be able to connect with him, but didn’t know how.
At the point of writing to me she had only spoken to me once over the phone she was pregnant and very fearful.
These are her words
I contacted Stephen after we had been seeing a counsellor for almost a year and she left the company which meant our weekly sessions stopped. Within two weeks of her leaving my partner and I had separated (I.E. He moved out).
I was at that breaking point where I had had enough but we have a child together, I have been bringing up his youngest son from his previous relationship for the past 5 years and I am pregnant, so I knew that I couldn’t just give up without one final try to speak to someone whom had the experience of what crisis really is.
When I requested a call with Stephen, I was on the verge of bursting into tears. He patiently spoke to me for over an hour giving me the best advice not just on my relationship but on who I am and who I wanted to be now, today.
He guided me through how to speak to my partner, giving me the words to use, which was one of our problems, COMMUNICATION.
For the first time, my partner opened up to me without it turning into an argument or who did what.
It sounds so simple to feel Love is to be Loving, this is what I did and am still doing today. I can say this has begun to change me as a person and I feel freer in myself, without holding onto that negativity, hurt and pain that has been and gone.
I know there would be so much more I could gain from seeing Stephen and I will keep hoping that I get to do some work with him in the near future.
Although I have only been able to speak to him so far, I can say I got more out of that 1 hour call than I did out of 1 year of counselling, that is for me what you call a GIFT.
Thank you Stephen.
What this lady learnt in that call was the start and her journey into understanding relationships and how to take control of her own life.
