The simple answer is yes. Many individuals will communicate they have fallen out of love with their husband or wife. What they are not aware of is, to achieve this emotional state they had to do something to themselves to achieve it.
Falling out of love does not just magically happen there is a process within a person that enables it.
Because this person’s experience of falling out of love is going to be driven by their subconscious mind they will experience automatic FEELINGS.
The person will feel their feelings have just happened to them, therefore this is their truth, when in reality they actually created them without knowing. This will leave the person telling a ‘truth’, the feelings they used to experience such as ‘love’ have gone, but not necessarily forever because feelings such as ‘love’ can come and go depending on what we do.
What they are not aware of is they created that feeling and that feeling is only permanent if they keep doing what helped them fall out of love.
Sadly many people are totally unaware of what they did to themselves to fall out of love and the cost is they will have low motivation to want to find out.
Many of my clients in this space will take action to discover the truth, but usually for their children’s sake or because they feel they owe it to their husband or wife.
What’s important to understand at this point is if we feel bad we are the creators of that feeling. Contrary to popular belief, no one has the ability to control our minds and what our minds experience. So the sentence “you made me feel…” is not actually possible.
If a person manages to attach a feeling that isn’t good to their partner, their mind will want to protect them and will look for more bad things.
This hidden process is devastating for relationships because a small problem in a relationship can snowball into an avalanche of problems and the couple are totally unaware of what’s going to happen.
Individuals who experience this challenge can find themselves vulnerable to a number of relationship-crushing scenarios such as…
- Affairs, physical and emotional
- Loss of trust in relationships
- A need to escape the relationship to feel good
- Their needs are met everywhere but the relationship
- They will seem to have re-written the story of the relationship
- They could seem to have totally changed personality
Fortunately, this process can be reversed if the couple want to learn how to get over this horrible situation and then learn how to both protect their relationship in the future.
This rebuilding process requires careful planning and defined steps to grow the couple to a far better place.
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With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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