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“Divorce won’t solve this…” – Mini Post

Many people see divorce as a solution to their problems, but for most people, all it does is prolong the emotional and financial agony.

As you scan this post you will also learn the heartbreaking perspective of a 16-year-old girl whose parents were in the thick of divorcing.

You see divorce doesn’t make people better relationship partners or better people.

Divorce doesn’t help people understand how they are part of their relationship problems.

Divorce doesn’t make people understand what others need and why.

Divorce doesn’t teach people to understand their role in a relationship.

Divorce doesn’t teach people about their relationship with themselves.

Divorce doesn’t teach people how to keep attraction and sexual energy alive year after year.

What divorce does is it allows people the freedom to run their own problems and lack of knowledge with someone new.

Imagine being in the process of leaving your third marriage only to find out the problem all along is you.

The pain, the suffering, the expense not to mention the guilt of discovering that she never needed to leave her first husband.

The husband she had her three boys with, boys who had to live without their father because she got it wrong.

Three boys who had to endure two stepdads all because she blamed their dad in fact she blamed all the husbands.

You see men and women are leaving perfectly good relationships because they simply don’t know what they are doing.

Everyone suffers and what’s worse is they pass their distortion and their mistakes onto their own children.

They are setting their children up to fail by being poor role models.

It’s heartbreaking because children don’t do what their parents say, children do what their parents do they follow them without knowing.

I remember a 16-year-old girl who was in the thick of her parents’ divorce and she wanted to speak with me, so I agreed.

She poured out her heart to me.

I discovered her fear was not about them staying together or not.

Her fear was about her own future.

She told me looking at her parents and how they were, she now didn’t trust relationships and that meant she would never find love.

And that frightened her to her core.

So we have a responsibility to be role models to everyone we love and teach them how to rebuild trust, how to repair problems, how to forgive and that learning the truth is the safest way to live our lives.

Divorce should only be a last resort as the ripples of pain and suffering last lifetimes when it’s done for the wrong reasons.

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Stephen Hedger
Stephen Hedger
About the author:

Harley Street Expert | Founder & Trusted Advisor to High Performers

With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, elite entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.

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Latest posts by Stephen Hedger (see all)
  • “I feel nothing… and he’s no idea why!” – MiniPost - May 19, 2025
  • 7 Steps For a Successful Marriage Repair Process - May 17, 2025
  • Do You Know Your Values & Why They Are So Important? - May 11, 2025

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

From Battlefield to Breakthrough: How to Save Your Marriage Without a Toxic Fight.

January 31, 2025 By Stephen Hedger

Most people who come to me for help believe their marriage is broken, so their level of hope is not high. Many will have tried to fix the problems without success. These people are unaware that there is a critical mindset shift: if you don’t make it, your chances of success dramatically drop. As you […]

“By changing yourself, you can change a relationship… because I did!”

September 16, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

We were in the process of physical separation, with my husband arranging to move out at the end of the month, and I was getting legal advice on proceeding with the divorce.  On one of those distressed and sleepless nights, I came across Stephen’s website and his blog. I was fascinated. What Stephen has written […]

“There’s no hope in hell – I want a divorce!”

April 22, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

So what do you do when the trust is broken so badly that their relationship ends with them selling their family home and moving into separate homes? Most people would consider this the end, but this gentleman decided something different. He wrote to me to see if I could help. I wanted to encourage his […]

Marriage Crisis from Infidelity & Communication Breakdown

August 21, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is about a professional couple in the UK who decided they wanted to share their experience of their tailormade program that was designed to help them out of their marital challenges. They were in crisis due to communication breakdown and infidelity. They had 12 meetings over five months to learn how to reconnect […]

His Marriage was Over!

June 5, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

This man was in the depths of sadness; his marriage was over, but he didn’t want it to be. They had seen numerous counsellors who had all concluded the marriage was indeed over. He had lost all feelings for his wife. Due to being so stuck for so long, he had started an affair. But […]

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  • “I feel nothing… and he’s no idea why!” – MiniPost
  • 7 Steps For a Successful Marriage Repair Process
  • Do You Know Your Values & Why They Are So Important?
  • “Should I Stay or Go?” Why You Shouldn’t Make Big Decisions While You’re Still Suffering
  • Stop & Never: The 30 Patterns That Quietly Destroy Relationships
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