What if one small change could make all the difference to your marriage and could save it from months or years of problems.
What if there is one small change we could all make to keep our relationships safe. Safe from misunderstandings, safe from no win arguments, safe from the ups and downs that life throws at us.
What if this one small change could break the patterns of destructions many couples have lived with for so long.
This small change that everyone can make is simply to be the best they can be in their relationship, or more importantly how to learn to be the best they can be. This is really important to understand…
Because I work with couples every week I know through their own admission they have not taken action to be the best they can be.
Now I know many of you will be shouting at this post, “I was doing my best until he did this”, and “she did that!” Please bear with me THIS IS IMPORTANT!
Being the best you can be is only going to be as good as your understanding.
- She may have been aggressive and nasty, but what did she really mean?
- He may have ignored you, but why, what was his real intent?
The reason couples reconnect emotionally with my help is the moment they become open to learn about the real meanings behind their challenges they start to understand something new and they start to grow together.
You see most couples are not out to hurt each other, BUT THEY DO!
Understanding really is the key, I don’t mean understand what you think you know, I mean really understand.
- Ladies you have never been male so you have to learn why he does what he does.
- Men you have never been female and so her actions won’t make sense to you.
Judging your partner without really understanding them means, you’re creating terrible feelings within you about them which can lead to decisions that can rip families apart for all the wrong reasons.
You see many couples think they have done all they can, but what they know is the tip of the iceberg so the actions they can take are very limited.
Recently I was working with a couple in real trouble and we focused on what they both really needed. Not only did they not really know what their partner needed, they also struggled to communicate what it was they needed themselves.
This is very common, how can you be the best you can be if you have very little idea of how to make your partner happy and worse is to expect them to make you happy when YOU don’t understand how.
- For a husband to be the best he can be, what has to happen?
- For a wife to be the best she can be, what has to happen?
If you want your relationship to last and remain passionate then you have to understand how to become valuable to your partner in the way they want.
When to people learn this, a different world opens up to them. A world of passion, deep connection, magnetic attraction, fun, adventure. This is possible for us all, but so few have this and it can be corrected.
If you want this, take action today, better yet get in touch and I will guide you.