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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Getting out of a marital crisis?

I now see roughly 20 couples per week, everyone in crisis and nearing divorce. Every one of these couples has broken their marriage in very unique ways. Some are wanting to fix the marriage, some are lost not knowing what they want but don’t want to make a life-changing mistake.

Every couple needed a unique solution to help them discover what they are capable of.

This weeks catch up with a few couples who came for help: 

Couple one: In her first session she said she was at the end of the road after years of disconnection and he was in a terrible state. Divorce was on the cards, and they were both giving up. 

This week they were in a much better place because he now understood how to attach the correct meanings to his wifes’ words and behaviours and she understood how she had been part of their problem.

In essence, they both wrongly thought how they were thinking was correct and this made them dismiss each other’s feelings and opinions, so they both felt alone, underappreciated and disconnected.

Couple two: This couple were disconnected but really didn’t know why. No one had been unfaithful no major rows as such just loss of connected energy.

In their first session, I drew a model of their dynamic so they both had a visual representation of why their relationship had died. This enabled them both to understand their roles and what they both have to do to become part of the solution.

As the weeks passed both people embraced their new roles and this week they are now in the planning stage to make sure their relationship has a purpose and is exciting to both people.

The result their energy dramatically changed and passion is back underpinned by seeing their differences as unique strengths.

Couple three: Emotional affair nearly broke this couples 20-year marriage. Not understanding each others needs had put this couple into a dangerous position where divorce was on the cards.

For years they were under the illusion they had a great marriage totally unaware that a small shift in their circumstances would magnify a problem they didn’t know they had and this would break a critical connection.

This loss of connection helped him to lose faith in his wife and took him to connect with another woman.

His wife never knew his suffering because he didn’t share his pain with her.

This week the couple were in a much better place. She had lost connection with herself (wondering how she could ever trust him again) he couldn’t understand why she abandoned him.

Now they both know what happened they can use this platform to rediscover their connection and marriage.

Now there is hope for the future.

Couple four: Battling couple had had enough of each other. She treated him like a child, and he had lost respect for her. He didn’t trust her overly emotional responses to his actions, and she couldn’t believe he was treating her this way.

Through a total lack of understanding of each other’s differences and needs, they were moving towards contempt for each other.

So I arranged a mindset shift for both people (individual meetings) run over a few weeks on their own with me so they could both understand their own behaviours (their reactive patterns) and learn their partner behaviours.

This week they experienced a dramatic change.

Through creating a shift of both their mindsets they were able to reconnect resulting in both people in tears (the happy ones).

Both people had lost themselves in the marriage, and so their connection had died. They left the session with renewed energy and massive relief they won’t have to divorce now.

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All these couples created fundamental and significant changes within weeks.

For so many couples their suffering comes from their lack of understanding of themselves and each other and what it really takes to create a life long passionate connection.

They struggle with seeing the situation they are in different so they keep practising the same destructive behaviours without knowing.

They even practice their destructive behaviours as they try to fix their problems resulting in their connection dying even faster.

To almost every couple I see for an initial consultation I ask them to stop trying to fix their problems because they are making things worse.

Getting a couple out of crisis takes careful planning and a strategy that reflects the individual’s needs.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

Marriage Crisis from Infidelity & Communication Breakdown

August 21, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is about a professional couple in the UK who decided they wanted to share their experience of their tailormade program that was designed to help them out of their marital challenges. They were in crisis due to communication breakdown and infidelity. They had 12 meetings over five months to learn how to reconnect […]

His marriage was over!

June 5, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

This man was in the depths of sadness, his marriage was over, but he didn’t want it to be. They had seen numerous counsellors who had all concluded the marriage was indeed over. He had lost all feelings for his wife. Due to being so stuck for so long, he had started an affair. But […]

Client responds to testimonial

November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

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‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

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“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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