Those suffering from relationship heart break will experience emotional and physical pain through the trauma of losing someone they loved, through them leaving and chosing a new life. The victims will run questions over and over in their minds searching for a solution to their pain.
Why did it happen, What did I do wrong? How could they do this to me? They promised to be with me forever? How could I have not noticed? I must be a failure? I’m a bad partner? He or she tricked me? How could I be so stupid? I should have done more….! This list of torment goes on and on.
Individuals get taken over with feelings ranging from worthlessness to anger, from humiliation to feeling unlovable from abandonment, rejection to deep depression and some to suicidal thoughts.
Both men and women can have a desire more emotionally powerful than almost any other to find away to get their partner back.
Some know that getting their partner back is impossible, or they have no desire to go down that road again, however they still have feelings of love for them yet no where to put those feelings.
Some just feel stuck not knowing what they want all they know is they are experiencing a hurt they never want to experience again.
So how do you heal a broken heart?
How to you mend the heart of someone who is in so much pain? Some just get active, they make life changes, some block their emotions, some get another partner fast.
What I find that works best is understanding the truth, or getting as close as we can to it.
The purpose is to put the person back in control of their life and their emotions. The experiencing feeling out of control and this is very frightening and if not understood can emotionally block that person for years to come.
Once the person has understood their role in their relationship break up then the job is to build their confidence in themselves by teaching them how they work and how they can take control of themselves and their future lives.
This process is very powerful because they not only understand how they work but they understand what to look for in future partners.
They learn how to communicate with themselves in new ways and this empowers them to see the world and how others behave in new ways.
A broken heart can be mended and the person can learn the right way to heal themselves step-by-step.
No one is out of control they just feel they are because life, parents and society has not taught them how. This doesn’t mean it’s not possible it means that education is needed.