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Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“I have done everything I can to save this relationship..!”

So a couple comes into see me and the message she provides me is “I have done everything I can to save this relationship, it will never change, he will never change what’s the point!?”

Both men and women can give me this blocked and self-limiting message that makes any kind of future feel impossible, however with the right support they can learn there is a way to break-through what they thought was impossible…

…I know because I see it every day.

This week is a perfect example, 12 weeks ago a lady believed that her marriage was over, but this week she no longer wants to leave her husband and can now see a future again?

What she did that was different to most people is she was brave enough to learn and breakthrough her old feelings and beliefs and learn a new truth for her. A truth that was much safer for her to live in.

Sadly so many people don’t get to explore this profound shift of belief and reconnection to their self and their partner. So if someone has a belief they have done all they can they can feel they are right, unaware they have limited their ability to get to the truth.

With this powerfully limiting thought, a person is living an energy that is no longer looking for a solution and is trapped in their own pain resigned to the ‘perceptual fact’ that nothing can be done so they sit suffering in a lack of action.

One lady came to me newly single again after running her destructive patterns 3 times with 3 different men wasting 15 years of her life, she was almost ready to give up on love. It didn’t take much to help her see the problem within her and the negative impact she was having on these men without knowing.

So back to the couple at the start of this post “I have done everything I can to save this relationship, it will never change, he will never change what’s the point!?”

She is right in that she has tried everything, but what she is not connected to is the truth that she has only been able to try what she knows – that distinction is critical.

What she knows in terms of what was really going to work is not going to be nearly enough to help to get to the truth in her relationship.

You see many people discover that without knowing they are also part of the problem and I could see that she was because through her pain she was repelling her husband.

He also had his own destructive patterns, but if both people are unaware they can profoundly hurt each other without knowing.

She, of course, can keep her own perception of reality and convince herself she is right to leave the relationship to find a new life.

Her challenge is if she doesn’t fully understand why they are really in trouble she’ll leave him only to discover she’s in the same hell all over again but with someone new.

My message today is to get very clear on what is and what has been happening in your relationship but from a much broader perspective than just your own.

People who run successful relationships think differently to those who don’t, they see the world from more than just their own perspective, they are also curious to learn what they don’t know and most importantly they don’t blindly assume they are right without all the right information.

These people are good leaders of themselves their relationships and their families.

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Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

Stephen runs his meetings from his office in Harley Street London and supports his global clients over Zoom.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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November 11, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

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October 20, 2021 By Stephen Hedger

‘Initially I went to Stephen with a sole focus on saving my marriage as my husband wanted a divorce whilst I felt I could not let go of the 14 years’ relationship without giving it a second chance. My husband was determined to exit and refused to join the Marriage Breakthrough Programme with me, therefore […]

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“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

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Recent Posts

  • “Living with a problem partner” – Mini post
  • “Never be a dream killer” – Mini Post
  • “STOP making YOUR partners upset about YOU!”
  • “Never try to change your partner”
  • Retired couple in crisis “We should know better at our age!”

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