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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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Marriage Problems? The solution is there all you need is courage to discover it!

The only way to build a successful marriage is to have the courage to be who you really are with your husband or wife and learn what’s at the root of your problems – NOT being who you are is a fundamental issue and one of the  root problems that leads many couples to wrongly divorce. 

What you’re about to read will go against the grain for so many people who sadly end up learning the hard way. BUT I know that those that are ready to learn will be ready to see their truth and stop years of suffering through answers that free them, just like so many couples that work with me each year.

At the end of this post you will read about a couple who left my Marriage Breakthrough Program last week who embraced what you are about to read below…

Are you ready? 

For any marriage to work you both need the courage to be open, vulnerable and connected to what you believe in and say is important. I see so many people, they tell me values like love, kindness, wisdom, integrity are just a few of their values.

Yet when questioned we find that they don’t practice, or become what they say is important from within their marriage. Many expect this from others, but not from themselves.

This means what’s critically important is not just your connection with your partner, but the courage to stay connected with yourself even when your relationship seems confusing, impossible or unfair.

In my world of rebuilding relationships from seemingly impossible situations ‘confusing’, ‘impossible’ and ‘unfair’ is really translated into that’s not the way I work.

Some people generate these kinds of translations. Through my own fear of what your behaviour means to me… to feel safe I need you to be more like me and when your not I suffer, resent and shutdown.

Many people lose that courage to be who they really are by finding an easy route, they focus on what’s wrong and they practice this focus until they feel justified to NOT be who they are. This practice becomes so painful for them they use this pain to leave their relationship, or have and affair.

The skill and courage of great relationships comes from the ability to see past the surface behaviours and look for the root cause of the relationships problems.

Without fail couples that come to me for help do not have this ability. They live in their heads going round in circles confused and focused on their own needs.

The resentment that has stacked over time has disabled them from being who they really are in their marriage. Some through feeling they have done all they can to get through to their partner then they have the ability to come across as selfish and uncaring simply because they have given up.

Some give-up and simply accept a substandard marriage and chose to get their fulfilment elsewhere in life, some give-up and see the only way out is to physically escape from their seemingly dead marriage.

I have helped many people, understand what is right for them and specifically why.

  • For some it’s right for them to leave their marriage and I help those people free themselves and their partner.
  • For some leaving their marriage will cause them terrible future problems, because their marriage is not their real problem, and if they leave they will simply move on to see their old problems manifest in their new relationship over and and over.

Yet more couples left my program last week with not only with their own personal breakthrough, but with the knowledge of how to keep their relationships safe and alive.

Look below at one of these cases below…

One lady came to their Marriage Breakthrough Program feeling she had lost love for her husband and couldn’t see a way forward. He had become weak and had totally lost himself.

His work life was miserable, his relationship with his children gone and his wife was saying she felt there was no hope. This situation had left him feeling lost and worthless, his world was about to collapse.

This couple had the courage to discover the root cause of their situation. This marriage was going to end without an intervention and they knew it.

They finished their last session of their program last week in a very different emotional state than when the first met me. They left reconnected and back in love. He decided to give up the career he hated and was started his own business.

He had reclaimed his masculinity (he had become unhappy and child like at home) and he now brought to the marriage the new ability/strength/confidence to help his wife feel safe to reconnect with her true self.

She learned that her loss of love was something she had created to keep her safe, but it was killing the marriage. I made them both responsible and gave them the tools they were missing.

She had felt he didn’t care and he had felt she was impossible to please.

Both of them were suffering until they learned the skills that gave them the courage to reclaim their true selves.

Once reconnected to their true selves, they learnt how to become truly valuable to each other and how to become a connected team.

Every week a new person/couple leaves their program with a new understanding of how they can become valuable not just to themselves, but to what’s important in their life.

There is a truth in every person that’s hidden and in every marriage, getting to that truth is so important. If you are suffering there is a truth in you and your relationship.

Is today the day when you have really had enough? If so now get in touch …

 

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I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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A 30 minute call with Stephen

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

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“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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  • Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
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