One of the biggest myths that couples tend to believe in is that the more time that passes the less passion they could expect. This is total RUBBISH and a myth created by those who don’t understand how to keep a relationship alive!
Maybe the myth was created to keep expectations low, just to keep people together happy with mediocre lives. Well the divorce rate proves people are not happy with mediocrity, they want more and I agree. I just disagree that affairs, splits and divorce is always the answer. Not every one can make it work, but knowing what to do makes a big difference.
- The answer is: If you want to be good at something learn how to do it well and relationships are no different.
Lets start with learning how not to do it…
The 3 step formula for successfully removing passion from your relationship, without knowing
So if your relationship is lacking passion and you have lost the playful side to your relationship there are going to be reasons, below are the top 3.
Step 1. Lack of understanding
One of the reasons is going to be understanding, or a lack of it. When individuals in a relationship don’t feel that their partner understands them they feel hurt or pain. If they get too much proof that their partner doesn’t want to understand them, then they start to resent their partner.
Step 2. No appreciation of critical needs
Another core reason is needs. If your needs are not met you’re not going to be feeling very playful or sexy. If you feel that you partner is showing no desire to meet your needs then this also compounds the proof that you are not understood.
Step 3. Lack of trust and respect
If the above is how you are feeling the big problem will now be the worry that your partner cannot be trusted to give you want you really need and this may help you to feel that they don’t respect you.
Trust and respect are critical because without it you can kiss your passion goodbye.
So what’s the solution to “Reclaim Your Playful Passion”
Well clearly if the above steps are in your relationship, maybe it’s time to make a change and understand what you are doing wrong and put it right. You need growth in your relationship. Relationships DO NOT stand still. Relationships are either growing or dying.
If you want to keep yours, maybe it’s time to learn how to put that spark back and keep it there forever.