I remember having a discussion with someone about life coaching. They were aggressively against it because in her words “…how can anyone tell me..! How to live my life!”.
Many people have this misconception of what happens in coaching sessions, I suppose it’s natural to make an assumption of some kind.
The reality of coaching
Any kind of coach is there to help unlock the potential within the individual(s) so they are free to get the life they want to live.
A coach is there to support individuals through the changes they want to make so they have the best chance of getting the life they desire.
There is a massive difference between helping someone get what they want out of life and telling them what to do, or how to live their life.
Coaches don’t have all the answers, their clients have the answers, they just don know how to get to them, this is how a coach adds so much value to a persons life.
The reasons clients don’t know how to get to their own answers are infinite and are not immediately obvious. This is why the client becomes stuck not achieving what they want, or ends up, giving up and settles for a safe mediocre life.
The potential is there…
Most people have far more potential within them than they thought possible.
The biggest challenge a coach faces is to change the beliefs that people have that are holding them back without them knowing.
A great example recently: A client of mine who due to an abusive past has a goal to remove love from her life by not having relationships anymore. She has done this to protect herself from certain pain.
Her belief is that relationships equal massive pain. The result of this decision is unhappiness, depression, lack of confidence, loneliness. and feeling that she is never going to be enough and that she will never be loved.
Without help she would stay stuck in this place, a coach cannot tell her how to live, a coach has to help her free herself from her fears and help her build a new future based on what makes her happy. Through this process she can discover the real her again the one she lost through her abuse.
- What are your thoughts on coaching?
- If you have tried it?
- Has it worked for you, if not why do you think that is?
- Is coaching a good, or a bad thing?
Please share your comments below…