This is the question for many individuals stuck in a relationship that simply doesn’t work. These people are confused, as to what to do so worried they might be making a life long mistake they seek professional help.
The people looking for guidance do not want someone to take sides, they don’t want the professional help to have a personal agenda, all they want is the truth.
The truth is what will set the couple free, free to either rebuild their lives together, or free to part for all the right reasons.
A path that’s built on the truth is always the right one to walk.
Many individuals come in to my sessions assuming their relationship is permanently dead. This is may only true based on how the couple have shown up in the relationship.
The question is how can I show up differently without losing a sense of who I am?
It is critical that both people are free to be themselves or the relationship could never work.
Just because the couple have not found the route to success together doesn’t mean they are incompatible.
The influencers in knocking a relationship off course are subtle, hidden and yet very powerful.
As couples start to learn the truth in their relationship, their eyes are opened to the relationships of others.
My clients tell me they are able to see where others are challenged and are able to take steps to help those they love around them.
The key to all this is taking the steps most likely to lead you to the truth for you.
So no I don’t believe in staying together for the children, but I do expect parents to protect their children by finding out the truth.
I don’t expect individuals to stay in miserable relationships, everyone deserves to be happy, but finding out why is the key to not repeating the same misery creating patterns with new partners.
So I do have an agenda when working with my clients? Yes I do, to ensure they are safe and can find a route to happiness either together, or apart.
IMPORTANT: The truth can only guide you when you learn how to see it.