Four couples have entered my session this week with this specific message is it possible to stop my divorce and save my marriage . I get all sorts of relationship challenges everything from trust issues, to lack of passion, from depression to how to get my partner back.
The challenges are wide and varied however…
…What I never cease to find amazing is how fast couples can change once they are given the truth about what has been happening in their relationship and given the tools that help them to feel successful with each other.
Society teaches nothing about this truth and how to understand ourselves or our relationships. This lack of understanding creates fear and from that fear destruction happens.
All four couples decided not to divorce after the first session
The reason I was able to help these couples so fast was because I helped them to understand their relationship differently and empower them both at the same time.
So the focus in the session is NOT about going over all the problems, all this will create is more problems.
The focus has to be to understand what is the biggest problem the couple faces and what change will make the biggest impact on them.
The biggest problem is usually: The trust has gone!
This is where I start. The couple learn at their usual cross road of destruction and growth what actions they can both take to look after the relationship and take the growth road and not the destruction road.
Then I help the couple to understand how they are both responsible without knowing in hurting the relationship.
Men and women are very different and their approach to each other can be confusing. One of the most frustrating places to be in a relationship is when your partners doesn’t understand you and you then feel alone and unloved.
Nine times out of ten your partner is not out to hurt you they are just fearful.
I become the translator
I help the couple bridge the gap, I become the translator if you like. You see we feel because we all speak English we should understand each other. BUT when men and women speak it’s like you’re speaking Greek and Japanese.
What we are really after is a real understand of each others worlds, how we work and why we do what we do. This empowers the couple to know how to be successful with each other.
So initially we are all working towards building trust, creating a heartfelt understanding and confidence that when things go wrong both people know what to do to support the other.
What this does is help the couple to work towards removing their fears.
When this happens we can then work on building an understanding of how to meet each others needs, minus their fears.
All of this is helping the couple to feel more secure, about each other and their future together.
This is just the start
During these two hour sessions I have help these couples how to deal with conflict and understand how to deal with depression and anger problems.
My job is to get the couple out of feeling stuck and hopeless to confidence, love and passion.
After the first session which creates the initial shift and hope the couple all then work with me to understand what next will be their solution. All couples are unique so the solutions are bespoke to that couple.
So are you wanting to stop your divorce? Do you want to save your marriage?
If so call me today 0845 519 4808
A divorce may be the wrong solution for you both.