Many people believe the hardest lessons to learn are the painful ones. Where we have made mistakes and they have cost us. Some believe the hardest lesson is when their errors are exposed to others.
Yes all these are potentially hard to take, however there is one that’s far more potent and it’s the one I see every week in my sessions.
The hardest lesson to learn is: The one the person didn’t know they needed to learn.
How can a person correct a problem if they are not aware it needs correcting.
Many people enter into couples coaching sessions feeling that the relationship is hopeless. What they discover opens their eyes to things they were aware of but never connected together.
You see couples do have solutions sat right under their noses but are unaware the solutions are there and so learning the most important lesson becomes impossible.
This is why the sessions are so educationally focused.
Most of my sessions start with the couple learning how to grow from their conflict. Two things will happen from conflict, you die a little or you grow. Most couples die a little and over time they build resentment for each other. At this point their future can start to feel uncertain and intimacy can become the next casuality as they lose connection with eachother bit-by-bit.
All couples have conflict in some way, it’s inevitable. It’s really important to know how to grow a deeper connect from that point of conflict.
Do you know how to do that? Does your partner? Would you like to know?
With relationships there are only a few things that make 80% of the difference the problem is most couples are unaware of those few things. Growing from conflict is just one of those keys to success…
If your relationship is suffering some simple steps can make a significant difference to your future together.
