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This couple did what many couples do. They created a loveless marriage!

I asked a couple in a session recently how much time they had both spent on their careers. I then asked them how much time they had spent on their children.

As you can imagine they were hard working caring parents so they both agreed they had spent significant time in both those key areas.

I then asked them how much time they had spend on their relationship. We came to an honest answer of “not very much”, this was due to life being so busy.

I agreed that modern life was busy.

This couple had come for help because their relationship had died and they were at the point of divorce, but they were aware of the dramatic impact a divorce would have on their children. So they wanted to see if it was possible to create a dynamic that could work with professional help.

I asked them how their broken relationship had affected their lives. They both shared how unhappy they had both been and how it really had affected everything.

Their work had suffered, the children had become unhappy and increasingly naughty.

I then asked them to imagine the effort in time they had spent on their relationship. I then asked them to imagine the impact if that same level of effort was transferred to their careers and their children. What would happen to the children and their careers.

Both people agreed that was unthinkable, they would almost certainly get fired from work and the children would be severely neglected.

What this couple started to see was they had severely neglected their relationship and by neglecting this key area of their life the other key areas were being affected negatively as a result.

As we talked we discovered that this couple didn’t know how to be successful with each other and so they had naturally gone to areas of life that were easy to be successful in.

This couple were intelligent, smart, caring, lovely people, but they were missing the knowledge of how to create a successful relationship for life and so they weren’t able to safely guide themselves and their own children.

So rather than both agreeing that what they were doing wasn’t working and seeking the right knowledge they ignored the problem and hoped it would sort itself out.They did from time-to-time try to talk, but just when they thought they had got through to each other they were both seeing how little they both really understood about each other.

They had successfully created a loveless marriage.

When a couple ignores their reality it is only a matter of time before something happens and their reality wakes the couple up.

This can be an affair, loss of love, detachment, to name a few.

This couple had destroyed their family by not making their relationship one of the most important part of their lives.

As a result the relationship was starved of the food it needed to survive.

The problem was this couple really didn’t understand the consequences of their actions, or lack of them. They had blamed each other and their busy lives.

These people were lovely people and yet without knowing they were hurting their own family and the future of every person in it.

Thankfully they wanted to learn where they had gone wrong and were committed to learn what was actually possible.

For this couple we discussed what was critical for them to learn and together we formulated a plan that would cover the main topics that were important to both of them and the topics they were both unaware of that were also impacting them both.

With a clear plan in place the couple were confident they would able to track their progress towards the goal they had both created.

They were not trying to blindly fix the relationship at all costs. They wanted the relationship to work naturally because that was the only way it could last.

This couple had now understood the importance of making their relationship the most important part of their lives. They realised that unless they learnt how to become effective partners in their marriage they were only really married on paper.

They realised that to guide their children to learn how to have a successful marriage they had to show them how.

They discovered that being married is not something that will magically happen. It takes skills we are not naturally born with. They discovered it takes skills to really understand each other and build a safe connected life and future.

All couples have the ability to learn and so they can learn these skills it they want to.

Personally when I started this journey of understanding relationships I knew I didn’t want to look back on my life and regret not doing all I can for myself and those I love.

Many of my clients share that view, they too don’t want to live a life they will regret.

This is why I encourage all couples if your relationship is failing a divorce is not the only solution. Just because you don’t have the answers it doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

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Stephen Hedger
Stephen Hedger
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Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach

With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

From Battlefield to Breakthrough: How to Save Your Marriage Without a Toxic Fight.

January 31, 2025 By Stephen Hedger

Most people who come to me for help believe their marriage is broken, so their level of hope is not high. Many will have tried to fix the problems without success. These people are unaware that there is a critical mindset shift: if you don’t make it, your chances of success dramatically drop. As you […]

“By changing yourself, you can change a relationship… because I did!”

September 16, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

We were in the process of physical separation, with my husband arranging to move out at the end of the month, and I was getting legal advice on proceeding with the divorce.  On one of those distressed and sleepless nights, I came across Stephen’s website and his blog. I was fascinated. What Stephen has written […]

“There’s no hope in hell – I want a divorce!”

April 22, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

So what do you do when the trust is broken so badly that their relationship ends with them selling their family home and moving into separate homes? Most people would consider this the end, but this gentleman decided something different. He wrote to me to see if I could help. I wanted to encourage his […]

Marriage Crisis from Infidelity & Communication Breakdown

August 21, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is about a professional couple in the UK who decided they wanted to share their experience of their tailormade program that was designed to help them out of their marital challenges. They were in crisis due to communication breakdown and infidelity. They had 12 meetings over five months to learn how to reconnect […]

His Marriage was Over!

June 5, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

This man was in the depths of sadness; his marriage was over, but he didn’t want it to be. They had seen numerous counsellors who had all concluded the marriage was indeed over. He had lost all feelings for his wife. Due to being so stuck for so long, he had started an affair. But […]

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