A simple shift of thought changed their whole life direction.
One gentleman came to me with a worry that was affecting his thoughts and his sleep. He had spent 4 months winning his partner back after she left him.
When she left him she met someone new and this really affected him.
With my help, he got her back, but he was now insecure about her, the future and other men.
He was now living a disempowering story of loss and that he might not be enough for her.
If he was left with this story he would have been in danger of losing her again as this story would have weakened him making him too needy for her.
What he needed was an empowering story that would change his perspective and how he felt about himself and her.
I told him he was missing the point of his whole journey with her.
Your new story is this:
“YOU GOT THE GIRL!!!”
“She was free to choose any man and she still chose you!!!”
This shift in perspective totally changed how he felt about himself and how he felt about her.
The stories we tell ourselves have a powerful effect on our emotions and the outcomes of our lives.
Are you living the wrong story in your marriage?
One lady was convinced of her story she has married an unloving man with no empathy.
The truth was her husband was simply not connected to what she needed and he never would have been naturally.
She never told him because she thought he should just know and because of this, she was consistently negative with him which helped him give up with her and focus on his work.
Her old story was shutting down their relationship.
Her new story changed to – My husband isn’t a mind reader and I can now help him to become successful with me – my husband is now able and is choosing to be loving and caring in the way I need it.
Her small shift in perspective changed her story and how she felt about herself and how she saw him.
Many people suffer in their marriage so they create an incompatibility story.
So the story we are incompatible is a dead-end story, or is the true story we are just so bored with our lack of connection and lack of understanding?
One story will lead us to divorce the other will lead us to learning, understanding and possible reconnection.