A Common Relationship Problem

She has tried and tried to get through to him and she wonders if he ever really loved her. He feels he has given her all he can and yet there is no respect for him and what he does for her and the family.

He feels she is so negative about everything, she feels that although she has feelings of love from the past, her attraction for him is dying or feels dead, emotionally she feels detached and numb.

The intimacy is next to zero, he now spends more time at work, and she spends her free time with friends or family. He feels he can never please her and she feels he doesn’t care. 

They are both concerned that the relationship is dying, but now she holds back her true feelings because she knows the reaction within him from her honesty will cause more of a problem for her and the relationship. She sees no point in being honest as a result he is relieved there is calm totally unaware of the storm brewing within her.

For him calm means maybe the problem has gone away and they can get back to normal and for her she can’t believe he can’t see she is in pain and he does nothing.

She knows he doesn’t understand her and he knows she is impossible to please as old problem he thought had gone away were back to haunt him.

Random picking at each other and arguments provide more proof they are not compatible.  They both feel that they cannot be themselves in the relationship their future starts to disappear and the gap becomes wider.

This is a very typical story that gets presented to me every day.

If this sounds like your relationship there are many things you can both do to bridge the gap.

About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.