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Masterclass series Part 5: What all couples have to avoid at all costs

What I’m going to share today is critical to understand because if this ever hits your relationship there is no question you will have a sizeable battle on your hands.

No one believes this will happen to them and yet it is one of the most common situations I see.

This critical point is a tipping point where one person says ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! This is the person giving up their own battle in the relationship and disconnecting in a quest to relieve themselves from the pain of being in a relationship that always feels wrong.

The problem is the person may not share this information until they are ready to leave and they could have been planning their escape.

For example: This tipping point occurs when the person is convinced that their partner can’t change, their future looks horribly like the past and now they just can’t see their partner sexually. The love will have died for that person.

They will also collect up all the wrongs in the relationship and in any one moment they can access years of pain in a single moment. This all adds up to the proof the relationship is dead. Some will even explain they feel that it has always been wrong.

For many couples it’s totally possible for one person to know in their heart the marriage is dead and the other to be totally oblivious of how bad it really has been for their partner.

I hear sentences like, “I knew it was bad, but I never knew it was so bad ending our marriage is the only solution…?”

  • Please don’t take what I’m saying lightly because the person who is disconnecting is not doing so on purpose in fact in many cases they are totally unaware of what’s happening to them until they become disconnected.

The antidote to this situation is actually very simple, sadly the problem is very few people are looking to solve a problem they don’t know they have.

A study was conducted with couples who were getting married and 100% of those couples believed without any doubt their marriage would be the in the 50% of successful couples. With a 50% divorce rate it’s clear that 50% of them will be totally wrong.

Plus a large percentage of the 50% who do stay together will end up coping with each other instead of living life to the full with each other. Many individuals are simply far too afraid to be really be honest with each other, afraid they will rock the boat.

I personally am very aware of this hidden challenge and so Cloe and I are making sure that the actions we take in our marriage disables this ever being a possibility for us.

The challenge is this: Even though the end result (disconnection) is the same, every couples journey to this problem is going to be totally different.

So it’s important to help the couple understand their unique danger zones long before they ever take hold without them knowing.

Sadly I know many people simply wont take notice of this information until it’s too late, but for the few who…

  • Know their relationship could be better
  • Have been holding back for a while
  • Have been feeling somethings wrong, but are not sure why
  • Have felt their partner does not understand them
  • Are feeling resentments
  • or maybe have felt as if they have lost who they are in their relationship
  • or even to those couples who just want a better sexual connection

In the Relationship Masterclass I’m going to be opening very soon. I’m going to be helping couples learn the simple steps they can take to avoid these problems through focusing on what will really create a secure and passionately connected relationship for life.

If your interested please get on the list as the offer will be open to these people first and spaces are limited. Click here to get on the list. Please remember this training is only open twice a year.

  • If you have read this and you are in crisis please make contact with us today.

 

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Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach

With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.

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