Toxic marriage had crippled him and ignited his deepest fears

This gentleman was clearly in the wrong relationship with a wife with a very troubled past. He had suffered for years with her, not wanting to leave her, but knowing something was very wrong.

He came to me totally lost and uncertain about his future because she had asked for a divorce and his world was collapsing around him.

He was depressed, anxious and stressed.

So why had he stayed in a marriage that was so wrong and why was he not relieved it was all over?

As I worked with him what became clear was he had multiple beliefs that were brilliantly constructed to protect him, but were actually trapping him in a life of hell.

So didn’t protect him at all.

By helping him unpeel each belief and it’s origin we worked together to deconstruct the limiting beliefs one-by-one. We understood the underlying needs those beliefs were trying to achieve and then we set about meeting those key needs in a way which made his life winnable again.

In essence my mission was to help him rebuild his confidence, self-esteem and help him to develop the courage to live the life he desired.

As he developed his new understanding of his past and current behaviours and what beliefs had created them we moved on to develop new skills he could use that would create a solid foundation for his life.

One of the core missions was to desensitise him from irrational fears that would block him from reaching his true potential.

By overcoming each fear he grew stronger and has now becoming ready to rebuild his life, no longer in hell and now excited about his new energy and control over what he brings to his life.

From my perspective it was a total transformation from a man was totally lost, to a man that can now intelligently add value to every part of his life.

He now has the foundation to add massive value to a new relationship and be a great role model for his daughters.

These are his words

I had been in a toxic & very volatile marriage for so many years and totally misguided by many other councillors and therapists, I found Stephens website and I decided I really needed help. 

My wife now wanted a divorce and I had wanted to save my marriage for the sake of my family and 2 young children. My life had been awful and I didn’t know which way was up at that point.

With divorce pending I was literally at rock bottom.

Stephen just ‘got it’ very quickly, he was just amazing, he literally got me from the point of despair.

I had had a horrible feeling of fear for years and was so unhappy, he taught me how to be positive and I trusted him.

In session 3 I suddenly got a ‘chink’ of light and for the first time in 6 years, I felt there was hope again in believing in me.

I was suddenly not feeling bleak but extremely positive. It was the most amazing experience. He totally transformed my understanding and made me realise there is an opportunity to have a life with endless possibilities.

He gave me the tools and mindset to believe in myself. Working with Stephen made me feel like I had reached the top of Everest. I know it sounds like a cliché but it’s true.

He is amazing.

Since working with Stephen I am so much more optimistic, I don’t feel stressed.

I had no life 6 months ago, I now choose my life and I’m finally in touch with myself and liking myself.

My friends and family don’t recognise me now from the person I was last year. The change in me has been phenomenal.

Seeing Stephen has been such a positive powerful journey into finding out the real me.

This Personal Breakthrough Program is designed to help any individual build the foundations to unleash their true potential in any area of their life.

For some it’s about…. 

  • Rebuilding confidence and self-esteem
  • Learning how to be a better relationship partner 
  • How to get out of a failing marriage and rebuild their life or 
  • Achieving something specific 

If this gentleman’s journey through my Personal Breakthrough Program has struck a chord with you and you want to unleash your true potential please get in touch with us today.


About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.