When a couples relationship hits problems the first person they blame is usually their partner. They look to their partner to make changes that will help them to be happy.
This usually helps the couple enter into a tit-for-tat blame game, as each person blames the other for the poor state of the relationship.
“…if you never said X, then I would have never have done Y, so clearly you are the cause” This type of exchange is very common, BUT the question is where is the growth in this exchange?
Unless the couple are creating growth in their communication the only way the relationship is heading is down.
So if you blame your partner then this puts you in a vulnerable situation.
What would happen if you took a long hard look at YOU. What could you do or change, to make your relationship better. This simple refocus would put you back in control taking action to save a relationship or marriage that you probably really want to save.
So take a moment what could you do?
What could you change about you that would save your relationship? You might just discover the compound effect of lots of little things can make a massive difference.
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