Many couples are asking me how the “Marriage Breakthrough Program” works and why it has proven to be so successful at helping couples on the brink of divorce?
There are a few critical components that have enabled this consistent success.
Initially I offer a couples one meeting with me so I can establish if I feel they can achieve the result they say they want. I don’t see the value in us spending 12 weeks together if I don’t think they have a hope of success.
I’m not worried about how bad the couple think their relationship is, I am looking for key indicators that enable me to assess if i can see that success is actually possible. When I see a result is possible they are invited in to work with me, if I have concerns over their chances of success they are usually given different options to consider.
Once the couple is invited into the Marriage Breakthrough Program with me…
Each couple has a tailor-made program designed for them to help them achieve two major goals. Breakthrough the presenting problem (conflict, affair, power struggles etc…) and ensure they have the necessary tools to solve their own problems in the future.
The program is broken down into a number of modules that builds the necessary roadmap to take them from where they are to where they want to be.
- Some want to fix the relationship
- Some want to find out if it’s fixable
- Some are not sure what they want and feel stuck, neither direction feels good.
- Some come in to the process on their own wanting to fix their relationship.
- Whatever the situation a process is designed to help them move forward.
This journey is as much an individuals journey as it is a couples, because to help a couple out of crisis you have to help the individuals become the very best of who they really are to see their truth.
Once the individuals have understood how to get the best from themselves then they are ready to learn about their partner how they work and what’s important to them.
In each step of the process the models of behaviour are drawn live for the couple in the session so they can understand the true purpose behind their own and their partners actions.
Men favour this illustrative approach as nebulous conversations about feelings can help them feel very lost when a female is describing her experience.
A significant part of my process is education, they must learn:
- How the gender differences are impacting the relationship?
- What behaviours are destroying their connection?
- How to plan a relationship for success!
- How the past has affected how they process the relationship today…
- How their relationship with themselves is fundamental factor!
- How to really hear their partner?
- How to communicate in a meaningful way?
- What behaviours are going to ignite and maintain passion and attraction?
- They must learn the power of emotional connection!
- Plus they have to understand what has to happen to rebuild broken trust…
These are just a few of the critical topics that couples are presented with that when put together in a way that rebuilds trust, creates connection and helps them build not just a rehash of their old relationship but…
…they learn how to build a brand-new relationship, that brings forward the essence of what’s great about the couple whilst integrating it with all they have learnt with me.
This process is design to respect the past challenges and build a foundation of trust and enables the couple to be able to connect on the levels that are important to them.
This helps them to see a future again.
Once this future seems real the couple are now in a position to plan for their successful future with a new confidence.
In essence the couple learn how to keep their passion for each other alive in the future through working through the inevitable challenges as a team.
This process keeps resentment low and enables passion to be high!
Couples describe the process as an awakening, enlightening, many even enjoy the process and continue working with me for deeper connection skills.
Working on something so precious as your relationship needs careful panning to ensure the process leads the couple to their truth.
The truth after all is what will free us all to live the life we were born to live. So in every scenario the couple is helped to discover how to to create win-win situations so no matter what both people are respected.
Interested to learn more? Please get in touch today so Stephen can help you understand how he can use this unique program to help your specific situation.
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