10 Relationship Rules | Stephen Hedger

Never assume your partner is trying to hurt you
Never make your partner wrong
Never threaten the end of the relationship (unless you really mean it!)
Never pull your love away
Never make your relationship all about YOU!
Always make your partner feel No1 in your life
Always make your partners needs your needs too
Always look for ways to help your partner feel great about themselves
Always make unconditional love your priority (it will cost you if you don’t)
Always make time for your relationship every day

Top rules for men

Be present with her and step-up and be there for her when she becomes upset. Embrace her honesty as feedback not criticism. Never make her emotions about you and become equally or more emotional (remember anger is an emotional fear reflex that will turn her off you sexually). Help her to know you are her security not just physically, but emotionally too.

Top rules for women

Love him like you would love your children, trust him and be open to him. Plan intimate times, tease him and proke him with your feminine energy. Help him to feel that he is truly a real man for you. Help him to know when he is doing a great job with you.

In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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