Todays thought is a question of integrity!
Below is a question many people have asked me in their sessions.
Q: I’m a loving, kind person, but when my partner behaves badly how do I stay connected to those values.
It’s a great question because many people hate who they become when they are with their partner because they become disconnected from what they really value and this equals pain and suffering for that person.
Love, kindness, compassion, empathy, joy to name a few are values people say are important but very few practice consistently.
Misunderstanding this problem of how to maintain integrity is at the root of so many couples’ problems.
The question is…
… how do I stay connected to what I value and who I am, regardless of the irrational nature and behaviors of those around me?
Understanding the answer to this question is critical because most people end up leaving their partners because they can’t be themselves with them.
So getting this right is critical but the answer to this challenge sits in understanding your relationship and yourself in a very different way.
The result of this critical skill is more confidence, more peace, more control, and freedom from an out of control reactive self.
The empowered and enlightened person who chooses the emotions and the outcomes they desire are the ones most likely to achieve the life they want.
When I learnt this it changed everything for me.
How this works is different for each person because just like everyone else you are unique.