In this weeks “Who is attracted to you†body language series we will look at the body and what’s it doing to communicate attraction to others.
Next time you are out, start to notice what others are doing because their body is giving off signals constantly and we are picking up these signals and converting them into meanings without knowing, so lets turn these subconscious messages into conscious messages.
Body language makes up for 70%+ of our communication, so people don’t have to speak to tell you how they are feeling and if they are interested in you.
What’s really important to decipher all these messages is not just to look for one or two signals because these could be an accident, so look for a multiple signals.
Body Language Tips
It’s logical to know that if someone is attracted to you they will want to look their best for you. So their mind will be directed to their self-image and what they look like. This will focus them to their own hair and clothes and without knowing they will start to preen themselves, they will adjust their hair, and straighten and tidy their clothes.
Men will try to make themselves look bigger, with puffed out chests, legs apart, maybe even thumbs in jeans and elbows out, anything to be bigger than they really are, women will try to look smaller with crossed legs and arms in tight. You may notice tall women can develop a slight stoop as she tries to look shorter.
Both men and women will subconsciously point their feet to the person they are attracted to. So they could be chatting with friends in a bar and pointing their feet at you.
They will do the same with hands, they will be directing you their hand to what they want you to see on them or they will be pointing at you, could be whilst holding a glass.
Listen to the voices
Men will lower their voices when around women they are attracted to and women’s voices will become higher. Nature has designed us to be attracted to the differences in the sexes so our reflex response is to create exaggerated differences without knowing.
- If you work with a female boss you will notice that she has had to make her voice become lower. She has done this without knowing, so she can survive in the male business world.
A group of women in a bar will become louder with giggles, shrieks and a full range of female sounds designed to attract near by attractive males.
A man who is with a group of his friends will stand outside of the group so possible female admirers can get a good look at him.
There are many more things to look out for, but this will help you notice what you notice about the world you are in.
The key is to notice as many signals as possible then when the person is not looking move to a different position so you can still see them. If they turn to look to where you were originally standing/sitting and then scan the room for you, then you know for sure they are attracted.
The acid test is lots of eye contact combined with a confident smile. If you receive this then you now need to discover what to do next.