One of the keys to so many couples reconnecting is their new knowledge of their destructive/outdated patterns.
Ill-formed patterns can change the perception of a person’s identity in one person.
It can also physically change a person’s identity.
It has the power to disconnect people from themselves.
It can negatively shift their attraction dynamic, so love, passion and attraction die.
It also helps people meet critical needs in negative ways, which is a problem because people can change without thought.
Many people are running their own negative patterns in reaction to their partners’ distortions.
I have seen couples run these patterns for 20, 30+ years, totally unaware whilst suffering with each other.
Once these people can see their patterns, they then have choices that enable them to break the old pattern(s) and form empowering, constructive ones.
This enables the individuals to reclaim who they really are and deal with their problems as a team.
Reconnection to yourselves and each other is critical.
Most couples are telling me that they now reconnect quicker when dealing with problems.
Couples that would usually disconnect for days or weeks are now reconnecting in minutes.
This means far less fear is now being attached to any problem that comes up.
I have seen couples who have struggled for years rewrite their history and reinvest as they start to understand the patterns on both sides.
I’ve seen people attend sessions on their own to remove outdated patterns and shift their behaviour to break their partners’ negative patterns.
So one person has the power to shift the whole relationship dynamic once they know how.
You see, many people are simply running the wrong emotional patterns, which triggers themselves and their partners.
Imagine being stuck in an emotional pattern that will repel your partner, help them see you as less attractive or switch off their sexual desire for you.
So the solution in these situations isn’t a divorce. It’s reeducation to see what you can achieve with the right help.
Not all couples can be helped, but the ones living in a distortion have every chance of reconnecting and reinvesting successfully.
Relationships are complex, so the mission is to help people learn the basics of psychology in the context of bringing out the best in themselves and each other consistently.
This means understanding the patterns that are eroding a successful connection and rebuilding them consciously.
The skill of consciously repatterning has been life-changing for many couples who thought their marriage was over.
The key to repattern a couple’s dynamic is in the strategy, so the process is accelerated and safe.
For those that want to learn, these are life-changing skills everyone should master.
So for anyone in destructive behaviour patterns, all this will do is erode trust and stack resentments and that will kill connection on both sides.
There is a solution for those passionate to learn.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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