My mission is very simple, empower individuals to become valuable to themselves their partner and their relationship so they can be effective leaders for their children and each other.
To achieve this I offer 3 very simple steps to achieve 2 very powerful goals.
- I commit to my clients to provide a very clear theory as to why the process they are going through with me works as long as they follow it.
- Give them easy to learn steps that deal with complex challenges.
- I help the couple apply this knowledge practically to their marriage.
The two goals couples need to achieve is first to breakthrough their presenting challenges. The next goal is to make sure they have all the tools they need to successfully navigate their lives together.
The couple needs to be gently guided through a process that will help them reconnect with themselves and each other.
The worst thing you can do with a couple in crisis is getting them talking about their problems with each other because this really is setting them up to fail.
You see every time a couple feels bad with each other that’s more proof to at least one person their relationship is impossible to solve.
Couples in crisis require a safe and fast route to their answers. Stressing the couple is not the answer, they need relief and a new way of thinking to build a new relationship.
The key to helping couples get out of a crisis is to first get them out of their problems so they can look at their situation with fresh eyes.
To do this it takes education…
One Gentleman came to me with his wife in the summer of last year, he was enormously sceptical not about my skills, but that they could ever be happy together – he’s tried.
Each week I gave him the plan the strategy and the tools they needed to see what they could achieve together.
Due to his mindset initially, he struggled.
So to help him I invited him to attend on his own and I helped him get his mindset right so he felt secure to test my theories and the tools I gave him.
Learning is one thing, applying what you learn to your life is where the real answers lie.
Each week he practised what he learnt and came back lighter in his approach to the meetings.
This new lightness was coming from him experiencing competence of how to approach his marriage and this brought a natural confidence in him.
This confidence was critical for him. Essentially he just need to know that he could have a positive impact and influence on his marriage.
At work, he had that feeling. At home, he was lost and so work was where he spent most of his time.
All he wanted to know was what to do to fix the problems that came up.
His old mindset had made problems worse and he couldn’t understand why.
When I spoke to his wife she was also flabbergasted at how men think so differently to women. I took her through the same process of changing her mindset and approach so she could help him be successful with her.
These simple but powerful shifts created a new dynamic and new energies and these energies naturally create attraction.
Attraction is the key to successfully rebuilding a couple’s marriage.
So many couples lose their attraction, but really don’t know why. Just so you know losing attraction a process!
By the same token reigniting attraction is also a process as this couple discovered.
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