Couples who want a consistent healthy sex life need to understand there is “AN ORDER” needed to keep that sexual energy alive, especially in long-term relationships.
If couples don’t understand “the order” their sexual connection can become unhappy, stressful to non-exsistant.
If you think about it most things have an order and without that order, they don’t work, sexual connection is no different.
For example:
- Heart surgeons need to go through a process of years of education there is an order to be able to practice.
- You can’t put jam on your toast and then try and butter it.
- You can’t ask a girl you’ve just met to marry you, there is an an order to her saying yes.
So in a long-term marriages sexual connection has a foundational order too.
If there is no “emotional security” and no “emotional connection” it’s unlikely the sexual connection will be consistent or present at all.
When emotional security and emotional connection are present then it’s far easier for the couple to enjoy creating that mutual passion either through planning, being spontaneous, or trying new things together.
In essence feeling safe, understood and cared for creates a platform for free energies such as fun and passion to thrive.
In essence, what happens outside the bedroom is as important as what is happening within it.
Emotional security + Emotional connection is “THE ORDER and the foundation” of how couples can grow their attraction into a sexual passion.
If the order is practiced and is a daily part of the relationship then a sexual connection is far easier and enjoyed by both people so no barriers.
Without this order sexual connection will become a problem or erratic.
Learning this is critical for couples lives together to be healthy and fun.
So this means really getting to know each other on a deeper level.
- What is emotional security for your marriage?
- What is emotional connection for your marriage?
These questions must be understood for passion to grow an stay alive.
Many couples have joined me for a “Reconnection Program” as an Anniversary present to themselves.
If you are interested in going deeper let my office know and we’ll get you in..
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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