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How to solve impossible marriage problems

If you are feeling your marriage problems are impossible to solve this post is for you.

When a couple come to me for help, they are going to both share a story of their relationship. Each person will have a different story about the same relationship, with different perspectives of the same event(s).

Both people are likely to have attached pain to their story. They have usually been feeling this way for a while and want the suffering to stop.

My job within their process is to help them understand their core problem(s).

Couples will be experiencing problems that become their focus, such as conflict, affairs, communication breakdown, power struggles to name a few.

IMPORTANT: What the couple will not be aware of is these are not their real problems and this is why they are going round in circles – Without help this is what leads many couples to divorce.

The way to help couples connect at the level they desire is to help them discover their source problem.

The source/core problem, is the problem that’s actually causing the couples visible problems.

When the source problem is understood and corrected it can have a profoundly positive affect on their relationship and how they both feel in it.

I have seen so many people come into this process with total certainty their marriage is over, yet when they focus on what they were not aware of, their feelings about themselves and their partner change.

Their guard comes down and many describe it as feeling safer and at peace.

I see their problem in two parts, job one is to help them connect to their truth. Help them discover what was really going on in their relationship so we can breakthrough the behavioural patterns that are blocking the couple.

Part two is to help them become a team and give them the tools to be able to protect their relationship forever.

This work is a journey of self-discovery as much as it is a couples journey. Within the couple there are two people who have a relationship with themselves that also needs to be understood.

You see many people have created patterns of behaviour that run subconsciously. These patterns are designed to protect them, but in reality are very likely to cause them more pain in the long run.

When couples understand their real problem(s) in their relationship this is powerful enough to be able to create the safe lasting changes and this can stop them putting their family through the long-term problems that divorce can create.

My message to all couples, find out the truth in your relationship before you make decisions that are hard to reverse. Too many people regret divorce and too many people see their old relationship problems appearing in new relationships.

 

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Stephen Hedger
Stephen Hedger
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Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach

With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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From Battlefield to Breakthrough: How to Save Your Marriage Without a Toxic Fight.

January 31, 2025 By Stephen Hedger

Most people who come to me for help believe their marriage is broken, so their level of hope is not high. Many will have tried to fix the problems without success. These people are unaware that there is a critical mindset shift: if you don’t make it, your chances of success dramatically drop. As you […]

“By changing yourself, you can change a relationship… because I did!”

September 16, 2024 By Stephen Hedger

We were in the process of physical separation, with my husband arranging to move out at the end of the month, and I was getting legal advice on proceeding with the divorce.  On one of those distressed and sleepless nights, I came across Stephen’s website and his blog. I was fascinated. What Stephen has written […]

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So what do you do when the trust is broken so badly that their relationship ends with them selling their family home and moving into separate homes? Most people would consider this the end, but this gentleman decided something different. He wrote to me to see if I could help. I wanted to encourage his […]

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August 21, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is about a professional couple in the UK who decided they wanted to share their experience of their tailormade program that was designed to help them out of their marital challenges. They were in crisis due to communication breakdown and infidelity. They had 12 meetings over five months to learn how to reconnect […]

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June 5, 2023 By Stephen Hedger

This man was in the depths of sadness; his marriage was over, but he didn’t want it to be. They had seen numerous counsellors who had all concluded the marriage was indeed over. He had lost all feelings for his wife. Due to being so stuck for so long, he had started an affair. But […]

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