Many men struggle to understand their wives, partner, girlfriend. In fact this struggle for men is widespread and is such a frustrating place for him to be.
He knows he loves her, but for him she acts as though she doesn’t believe him, or doesn’t trust him. He feels that he can’t win and that she acts as if she doesn’t care about him.
At times he feels she can seem impossible to please and reasoning with her just seems to spark her into a frenzy of accusations that just are not true from his perspective.
Many men can feel disrespected by his partner. It’s like no matter what he does, she can find fault in it.
Frustrated, he can become angry at her behavior, but then he watches in horror as this just makes matters worse as each time he can’t cope with her, she takes it to a whole new level of destruction for him.
All he wants is lots of love, and a calm, peaceful loving warm place to live.
He can’t understand what’s going on for her, or what will ever make her happy.
Even when he does try to do things for her he feels it’s either ignored, or it’s like he never bothered so he gives up trying.
For him nothing works and he feels terrible inside, but he can’t tell her because if they both agree things are bad they she might use that as proof that ending the relationship is the next best step, which is not what he wants.
So he keeps quiet, hoping that the storm will pass and for a short time it does, however…
…just when he feels the storm has gone away, out of nowhere, days later, a tiny situation blows up into a collection of all his wrong doings from her perspective from the day they met through to today.
It’s in such detail, he’s at a loss to be able to defend himself because he can’t remember what happened last week let alone 5 years ago on a Wednesday at 8pm.
So whenever he hears those words “we have to talk” his heart sinks because whatever she says he knows he’s going to fail to make her happy and he’ll probably make it worse, which is what’s happened in the past.
Then he hears those words he has dreaded, “…we need to go to therapy…”.
So to all men reading this: I have an option for you, instead of going to therapy or counseling where you’ll have an hour talking about your feelings.
Why not work with me so I can help you understand her and what she really needs to be happy. Then we can build a roadmap of actions you can take that will help her feel you do understand her and you do care.
You see the problem all men face and why they struggle to maintain the connection all couples need is the men have never been female and so when they communicate they have no idea the impact their words and actions will have on their partners.
So do you finally want to learn how she works so you can reignite your relationship again?
I know deep down all you want to do is please her, so step-by-step let me show you how.
Interested in a man-to-man strategic approach to solving your marriage problems if so call us today.